Transform Your Chores Into Moments Of Zen

I recently had to find my “inner zen” when I had to file my taxes in person. Even though I was really, really not in the mood and not looking forward to it at all, I decided to make the most of this dreaded chore by practicing a time-tested spiritual technique of just being present in the moment. This attitude made my day so much easier and more fulfilling.

As I waited in line at the tax office, I couldn’t help but overhear a less than happy man ranting in one of the booths. I felt bad because, well, we are all human and this is about paying taxes, for goodness sake! We can hardly blame others for reacting this way. I mean, who really enjoys doing their taxes?

But I think it’s better to stay calm and carry on, because in the end everything will be fine. Having a “panic attack” or “hissy fit” like the guy in that booth won’t change the situation, except to make it worse. I know from experience that keeping an inner calm always wins the day.

If you have to deal with a chore or task that you are not looking forward to, try to embrace it and immerse yourself in the experience rather than making it worse by creating a lot of resistance around it. There is a lot of ancient wisdom in “being present in the now.” It is no accident that this concept is rooted in various spiritual traditions and teachings throughout history, as it points to a universal truth that is essential for spiritual living and personal well-being.

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions ~ Pema Chödrön

For example, Buddhism teaches that mindfulness is a way to end suffering by recognizing the impermanence and non-self nature of existence, leading to enlightenment. Meditation and yoga practices in Hinduism also advocate a deep awareness of the present moment as a means of connecting with the divine and realizing the true self (atman).

Chinese Taoism advocates simplicity, spontaneity, and going with the natural flow of life, which inherently involves being fully present and aligned with the present moment. Christian mystics also emphasize the importance of the “sacrament of the present moment,” where God’s presence is accessible to everyone at all times. Practitioners are encouraged to focus on the now as a means of connecting with God, often through contemplative prayer and meditation.

Many indigenous cultures around the world have spiritual teachings that emphasize living in harmony with nature and the importance of being fully engaged in the present moment. This is often practiced through ritual, storytelling, and a deep respect for the interconnectedness of all life.

The philosophy of Stoicism teaches the value of focusing on the present and the things within our control, and accepting what we cannot change. It encourages mindfulness as a way to achieve serenity and virtue, to live according to reason and nature.

Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Aways work with it, not against it. This will miraculously transform your whole life ~ Eckhart Tolle

Being present in the moment, especially when faced with unpleasant tasks, requires a conscious effort to engage in the present experience without judgment or resistance. If you find it difficult to keep your cool when faced with an unpleasant chore or situation, try some of the following strategies to help you stay present and handle such tasks with a greater sense of calm and efficiency:

Acknowledge Feelings: Begin by acknowledging how you feel about the task at hand, without trying to change or suppress your true feelings. Acknowledging your feelings is the first step toward accepting the situation as it is.

Morning Prayer: I recommend a prayer before you go out to deal with a challenging situation. A morning prayer is a great way to bring into your day the people and situations you want to bring forward and my personal favorite. I pray for inner peace and calm every day before I go out into the world. When you are confronted with negative energy or emotional people, it is easier to remain at peace with each moment if you start your day with a grounded and centered state of mind.

Positive Affirmations: Remind yourself of your ability to handle challenges. Positive affirmations such as “I am capable of doing difficult things” or “I grow by stepping out of my comfort zone” can help shift your mindset and make the task feel more manageable.

Clear Intention: Before you begin the task, set a clear intention. Ask yourself why this task is necessary and what positive results will result from completing it. This helps to put the task in a more positive light. Even unpleasant tasks can have elements to appreciate, whether it’s the opportunity to learn something new, the satisfaction of completing a challenge, or simply the physical or mental effort the task requires.

Smaller Steps: Large, unpleasant tasks can feel overwhelming. Break it down into smaller, more manageable steps. Focusing on completing one step at a time can make the task feel less daunting and help you stay present and engaged with each step.

Less Distractions: Minimize distractions that could pull your attention away from the task. This might mean turning off notifications on your phone or finding a quiet place to work. By limiting distractions, you can more easily focus on being present.

Practice Mindfulness: Fully engage with the task at hand. Notice the physical sensations, sounds, and sights associated with the task. If your mind wanders, gently bring your attention back to the task. This practice of mindfulness can transform mundane or unpleasant tasks into opportunities for presence and awareness.

Breathwork Pauses: Whenever you find your mind wandering or your stress level rising, stop and focus on your breath. Take several deep breaths, inhaling slowly and exhaling fully. Mindful breathing can help ground you in the present moment and reduce stress.

Small Rewards: Plan a small reward for when you complete the task. Knowing there’s something to look forward to can make it easier to stay present and push through the discomfort. For example, reward yourself with a favorite snack or special drink, watch an episode of your favorite TV show, indulge in a hobby or interest you rarely make time for, or engage in a self-care activity such as skin care, meditation, yoga, or even a nap. Choose something that makes you feel cared for and relaxed.

The next time you face an unpleasant task or situation, remember that within you lies an inexhaustible source of strength and serenity. The world outside may whirl in constant motion, with challenges and surprises at every turn, yet your ability to remain centered and calm is your greatest ally. Embrace the present moment with an open heart and mind, for it is in the here and now that life truly unfolds.