Choose Your Tribe Wisely

We need to face the fact that some people are unfriendly, heartless, and simply rude! I discovered recently why someone I know personally acts so unfeeling and uncaring towards others. She always seems so wrapped up in her own world and shows no regard for anyone else. This has brought about much dis-ease in her own family and she has also gone through numerous failed romantic relationships.

During a recent family gathering, I was observing her aura and noticed that she suffers tremendous guilt and envy of others. Meanwhile, she is always looking for acceptance and comfort from her many boyfriends, who only stick around until they find out how manipulative and vindictive she really is.

Spirit showed me that she truly hates herself and projects it onto others. She is just not happy and slowly drains the energy of those around her. They usually do not realize this until it is too late. I do wonder how those who orbit around this person can manage to stick around at all, as it seems dis-ease and drama just follows her everywhere she goes in life.

Before her sister’s funeral, she was even snapping and yelling at her youngest daughter for something as trivial as a puzzle piece accidentally dropped on the floor. I asked one of her other children how she grew up to be so loving and sweet, having been raised around that kind of negativity? She said the credit belonged to her grandparents, as well as a few other family members.

I refuse to be unkind to anyone. It is in my nature to be civil and courteous to everyone I meet. It is my motto to leave others feeling better than they were before I interacted with them. But many people, will not even smile, no matter what you say or do. Spirit says this is due to their ‘spark’ being blown out by their own bad life choices and negative thoughts. It’s a matter of free will.

A lot of the happiness or unhappiness in your life is a result of the people you’re surrounding yourself with. So develop the courage to let go of toxic people ~ Karen Salmansohnn

Fortunately, we also have our own free will to decide who and what we allow into our environment, and our energy field. I’ve mentioned the importance of setting healthy boundaries in several of my previous blogs on this site, but I must mention it once again. We can make positive, healing choices to establish a healthy distance between ourselves and people who cause destruction and dis-ease. It is up to us to decide who we spend time with, and who we continue to share our energy with.

You can only be kind and tolerant so many times, before you realize it is them and not you who has the issues. Don’t live in denial that someone is going to change. It is noble to want to see the good in everyone, but when people have so much dis-ease, one must face the truth and save yourself. Set healthy boundaries, so you don’t end up like so many folks who eventually have to deal with serious physical and mental health problems, due to all the stress and toxic energy around them.

The key is to stick with those who are kind, friendly and considerate. Focus on those who have a warmth about them, who welcome hugs and are loving. Hang out with the people who respect and appreciate you. They are your tribe!

If a person finds negative people in his life, then he needs to mend his own nature than that of others, for his own basic grounding decides the level of acidic or toxicity surrounding him ~ Anuj Somany

Listen to your inner voice and how you feel when you engage with friends and family. Do they welcome you with a smile and warm embrace? Or do they act rude, cold or aloof? Do they often gossip? Do they constantly complain? Do they spread lies? Do they instigate conflict? Are their closest friends and family happy and content?

Be wise and the answers will flow. You will soon know who to share time and space with, and who to keep at a healthy distance. Life is short and our time precious. We are under no obligation to tolerate energy thieves and toxic people in our life. Choose your tribe wisely.