Take Back Your Power!

Everyone has a story to tell about their love life. And some of have extremely abusive stories to tell. One common element that I have come across frequently in my work, is the fact that some people are treated with disrespect and emotional abuse, and yet they are still patiently waiting for the abuser to return to them!

When you ask them why, it is usually because they “still love” that person. Well, that is not love. It is simply an imagined need that has been created by the abuser, or by one’s lack of self-worth. It is a psychological illusion, not real.

If you are still waiting for someone to come back into your life, after they left you for someone else, you are making yourself the second choice. You are degrading your own true value and taking away from your self-worth.

During a workshop I presented on this subject, I asked the participants to write down why they felt they needed that other person in their life. In essence, all their responses ended up being about lack of self-esteem, self-respect and self-security.

The next step was to ask them how they would you feel if they saw someone treating their daughter, or son, in the same way they have been allowing the abusive partner to treat them? They all said they wouldn’t tolerate it. They would intervene and get that person out of their lives, or at least try. One of the delegates even went as far as to say, “I would lock her in the house and never let her out again.” Which might be a great idea under the circumstances, but obviously not realistic!

Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change ~ Shannon L. Alder

Of course, my next question was, “Then why do you allow this person to do this to you?” Again, the standard excuses came out, as well as the pervasive, “Because I love him!”

True love is respect from both sides. True love is building each other up – from both sides. True love is honoring that people may be different, or like different things. True love is not about causing emotional, mental or physical distress, or making another person feel as if they are worthless.

Please, stop giving away your power. Our angels cover their eyes and cry when we do. They cannot intervene if this is what we choose. However, if you ask them for help, they will give you strength and guidance. You are worth so much more than your abusive partner will have you believe.

Only you can choose to be the best and strongest version of yourself. And do remember, if you have children or younger siblings, they are watching what you are doing, and they will imitate you when they grow up. It is not a good lesson to teach them.

Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it ~ Ann Landers

So, take a step back into your power today. Just take one small step. Look in the mirror, give yourself a hug, and say, “I love myself unconditionally. I am perfectly perfect as I am, and no one can take that away from me.” Choose to stand in your power.

Things won’t change in an instant, however you will find, as you repeat this process daily, you will gradually start to believe those words coming from your mouth.

You are indeed amazing. You are powerful. You are loved unconditionally by Source and your angels. You are perfectly perfect as you are, and only you can choose not to allow someone to take that from you. Start taking back your power right now.