The Law Of Reverse Effect

I remember talking to a very distraught client a few years ago about a man with whom she had been having a secret affair for 24 years. It was a relationship she was very obsessed with and had stubbornly pursued for over two decades, despite many red flags and a great deal of frustration and disappointment along the way.

When this man finally got up the courage to divorce his wife, he left not only his wife, but also his mistress. Within three months, he was in a relationship with someone new and told my client that he never really felt that way about her anyway.

She wanted to know how this could be? She expected with 100% certainty that he would be with her and no one else after the divorce, but the exact opposite happened. After all, she had put a lot of time, effort, energy, love, and devotion into this secret relationship, not to mention all the stress, frustration and drama she had to endure for over two decades.

At the time, this tragic story made me think about some of the free will choices I have made in my own life. There have been times when I, too, have stubbornly expected things to turn out a certain way for me because I pursued it with vigor, only to be devastated when it did not. For example, many years ago, a guy I had a huge crush on and thought was really into me ended up hitting on my best friend while we were out on a date! I guess the moral of the story is to never pursue someone who is not really that into you.

The harder we try with the conscious will to do something, the less we shall succeed. We cannot make ourselves understand; the most we can do is to foster a state of mind, in which understanding may come to us ~ Aldous Huxley

But why does the exact opposite of what we expect sometimes manifest instead, when we have worked so hard at achieving it? Does this mean that the Law of Attraction has backfired on us? Are we being punished by God, Source, Spirit, the Divine? Is it it due to an ancestral curse or a messy past life? Is the Universe too busy to attend to our needs? Have we been forgotten or abandoned?

None of the above. It simply means that the Law of Reverse Effect is at work. And we only have ourselves to blame.

The Law of Reverse Effect, also known as the Law of Reversed Effort or the “Principle of Paradoxical Intention,” is a resistant energy phenomenon that happens when we obsessively try way too hard to achieve a particular outcome, which actually hinders our progress and makes it less likely to happen. In essence, it means that the harder we try to achieve something, the worse the result.

Reverse Effect is therefore an energy vibration of resistance that occurs when we are not in the Universal Flow or when we are too focused on an outcome. We begin to emit an energy vibration of resistance when we try to control absolutely everything because we do not trust the process or think we know what is best for us, when more often than not we are clinging to something that is not serving our highest good.

An energy frequency of resistance is also created by negative thoughts and obsessive worries. Our conscious mind can become overwhelmed with thoughts and fears that can block our intuition and creative ability. Instead of trying too hard, we should focus on creating a state of relaxation, faith and openness in which our true potential as deliberate creators can emerge.

How do we know when we are in an energetic state of resistance or ‘reverse effect’? Negative emotions such as apprehension, anxiety, fear, self-doubt, anger, envy, hurt, disappointment, embarrassment, vengeance, and sadness related to the outcome we are hoping to manifest are all telltale signs that we are not attracting it, but rather pushing it away or even blocking it.

The results of proficiency come only to those who have learned the paradoxical art of doing and not doing, or combining relaxation with activity, of letting go as a person in order that the immanent and transcendent unknown quantity may take hold ~ ~ Aldous Huxley

Manifesting is effortless and occurs when our conscious ‘ego mind’ and subconscious ‘soul mind’ join forces and work in harmony. Manifestation is about hope, joy and calm confidence, not about stress, worry and struggle. Blood, sweat and tears do not guarantee our desired outcomes. If you find yourself doing this, while telling yourself that you are making a valiant effort in your endeavor, you are doing so because your ego and higher self are not truly aligned.

This is obviously a problem when we consider the Law of Attraction of “like attracts like” and related universal laws such as the Law of Vibration and the Law of Cause and Effect. Positive thoughts and beliefs attract positive results and experiences. Conversely, negative thoughts and beliefs will attract negative results and experiences. We can only attract and manifest what we resonate with.

Gaining a better understanding of the role the Law of Reverse Effect plays in our lives can be powerful in overcoming anxiety, improving our manifesting success, and achieving our dreams and goals. By applying this key metaphysical principle, we can let go of our need for control, learn to relax with a focused intention, and trust that the universe is serving our highest good. This leads to greater inner peace, calmness, happiness, success, joy and fulfillment in all areas of our lives – all signs of an energy frequency of ‘allowing’ or ‘being the flow,’ also known as the Law of Allowing, the Law of Least Effort, and the Law of Detachment.

There are several universal or metaphysical laws that require our attention to ensure a truly blessed, fulfilled and happy life. However, the lesser known Law of Reverse Effect should be observed more often and with more care. If we are to master the art of manifestation, we must indeed consciously acknowledge and focus our willpower on our goals, and visualize and work towards our desired results, but we must also trust the flow and learn to let go and let God

About 15 years ago, how much I longed to start my own business, to be self-sufficient and independent of a husband or employer to support me. At the time, my conscious mind could not imagine how this could happen. But my spirituality empowered me to go ahead and set the intention with confidence, visualize it by creating the vision for my future in my mind’s eye, and then release it into the universe with complete trust and faith. Sure enough, today I have a successful business as a spiritual counselor and psychic reader.