Always Be Free To Own Your Feelings

When was the last time someone suggested to you that you are much too happy, that you are smiling too much and needed to get on with it?  My guess would be… probably never. Then why do you suppose it is that whenever we are in a place of sadness, or enmeshed in feelings of loneliness, grief or despair, we are often told there is a time limit on our feelings; that we need to get over it.

My brother passed away at the tender age of 12 and left such an enormous gap in our lives that my whole family mourned him for over 25 years. For us this was a normal and natural process. We knew instinctively that we would release our feelings of sadness and our great sense of loss at our own appropriate time, with the added luxury of not having anyone give us a grieving time-table to adhere to.

Never apologize for showing feelings. When you do so, you apologize for the truth ~ Benjamin Disraeli

Feelings kind of go through the body the same way as food: we ingest, assimilate, digest and release at our own appropriate time. No one has to tell the body what to do. It operates at a level that is perfect to each individual and, if left to its own devices, serves us in a perfect, natural order. It is only when an outside source tries to interfere, even with the best intentions, that things start to go awry.

What happens to the feelings that we are made to suppress? Do they move on to someone else? Do they leave for another country?  No, they become deeply stored in the subconscious and, if not allowed to expel themselves in a natural order, will find a way to release themselves – sometimes causing the body much harm in that quest.

When we came into this existence, in this particular dimension, one of the assets we arrived with was our ability to have and own our feelings and emotions in all circumstances. When did it become a liability to express certain emotions? How did they become either positive or negative? Who decided for us that it was okay to be happy for an indefinite period, but not okay to be sad for the same amount of time?

I would encourage you to decipher for yourself what you are feeling and allow yourself the natural time frame for those feelings to be digested and released, as the body perceives it should. Never let anyone tell you what you need or “to get on with it.” The more we operate in a fashion that is natural and true to our nature, the healthier we become. Always be free to own your feelings.