Accepting The End Of A Relationship

Don’t resist change, even in love. It is always best to accept things when a relationship ends. Sometimes a door needs to be closed in order for another door to open down the road.

I have seen this in my own personal relationships and those of many of my clients and friends. If it’s meant to be and there is true, everlasting love between two souls, there can never be a permanent goodbye. Rest assured, if you are meant to be with your beloved, they will come back to you, or you will go back to them.

At some point we all experience the pain of saying goodbye to someone we love very much. Experiencing relationship break-up tends to turn our lives upside down. This is especially true when we have to close the door on someone we love very much when we don’t really want the relationship to end.

But if we do it in a way that leaves the door open for them to come back, then maybe we can have a new beginning later. We just have to do the very hard thing of saying goodbye and taking a step back for now. If we refuse to accept that a relationship is over, we only prolong the pain and dysfunction, and make it difficult to heal and grow from the issues that caused it to fail in the first place.

Instead, we should focus on ourselves and our own needs for a while. When we are in a relationship that is not working, it can be easy to neglect our own needs and issues. Accepting the end of a relationship allows us to focus on our own healing and well-being. No matter how hard we try to hold on, it will only make it more difficult to bring healing to the aspects of the relationship failure that need healing.

If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were ~Richard Bach

It’s in letting go that love sometimes returns. If it’s true love, it will return, and it often does. Letting go shows the person we love that we care enough about them to set them free. It also shows that we are strong and independent. No one likes to be with a ‘needy’ person; it shows weakness, low self-esteem, and that is very unattractive no matter how you look at it.

The end of a relationship can be a difficult time, but it can also be an opportunity for personal growth. We can learn from our mistakes and make changes in our lives so that we can have more successful relationships in the future. Sometimes it is our own mental and emotional health that keeps us from achieving our relationship goals, and we must first overcome our own anxiety, tension, worry, trauma, and fear. Only then can we truly build a lasting, healthy relationship with someone else.

Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself ~ Deborah Reber

It’s all about self-love, inner strength, wisdom and having the faith to go with the ebb and flow. We cannot control everything and everyone. Often we just have to allow things to happen. There are real surprises and blessings to be found in just letting things be.

And if all else fails and a reunion or a new beginning is just not meant to be, then all the more reason to accept that it is over. If we remain stuck in a past relationship, we are not able to open ourselves to new possibilities. Accepting that a relationship is truly over allows us to move on and find someone else who is a better match for us. It opens the door to a new and better relationship.