How Long Until Their Soul Makes Contact?

I have been asked how long it typically takes for a soul who has recently crossed over to reconnect with us from the other side. This is a particular concern for those souls who leave violently or through sudden illness, often at a young age.

I’ve found that this timeline varies from soul to soul, depending on their original soul plan, life journey, and the circumstances of their passing. It also depends, in my experience, on the belief system of the person before they returned to spirit, especially if they had no spiritual beliefs whatsoever. If they didn’t believe in anything beyond this life, there is often a much longer period of ‘debriefing’ and ‘orientation’ to their new surroundings once they arrive at the proverbial ‘pearly gates’.

Sometimes people come to me for a reading hoping to connect with a loved one who has recently died, and they are disappointed when they don’t get clear, affirming messages from the person they were hoping to connect with. Fortunately, they are often relieved when another family member or friend who has been deceased for a longer period of time comes through for them, often with a comforting message about their recently deceased loved one.

Most psychics recommend waiting a period of time after the death of a loved one before attempting to communicate with their spirit through a reading. This recommendation varies from practitioner to practitioner. Many mediums suggest waiting at least three to six months after the death of a loved one. This period allows for the initial grieving process and gives both the spirit of the deceased time to adjust to the afterlife and the living time to process their grief.

Some mediums recommend waiting even longer, from six months to a year, to ensure that the emotional intensity of the immediate loss has subsided and to provide a clearer, more stable connection during the reading.

Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy ~ Eskimo Proverb

Allowing the grieving person time to process their emotions can make the experience of a reading more meaningful and less emotionally overwhelming. The souls of the deceased need time to transition and become more capable of clear and meaningful communication; a period of waiting ensures a stronger and clearer connection between the medium and the spirit, resulting in a more effective and comforting reading.

One also finds specific cultural or religious beliefs about this in some traditions. For example, in some Eastern Orthodox and other Christian traditions, the soul is believed to undergo a 40-day journey after death before reaching its final destination, after which it may be more likely to communicate with the living. In Tibetan Buddhism, the term “bardo” refers to the intermediate state between death and rebirth, a period during which the soul may experience various phases and potentially communicate with the living.

Ultimately, the exact timeframes vary based on the beliefs and practices of individual mediums, as well as the beliefs and specific circumstances of the deceased and their loved ones. It’s important to follow the guidance of the medium you choose to work with and to consider your own emotional readiness for such an experience.

Personally, I have found that two to four months is the minimum time it can take for the recently deceased to make contact with us. In the case of my father, he first connected with me through my monthly psychic circle only two months after his death.

I remember another special case of a client whose husband was a very spiritual man with a great sense of humor. Two weeks after his death, I had a meeting of the monthly psychic circle I hosted in my home. Much to my surprise, the first visitor was this gentleman, and he came through with the energy and humor that was undoubtedly him. I called his wife immediately after our meeting to tell her the wonderful news.

Instead of focusing on their death every time you think of them, you begin finding yourself remembering their smile or the way they lived ~ Tyler Henry

“Oh, that’s wonderful,” she said to my surprise. “He told me he wanted to connect through your circle today!”

I had no idea that the two of them had been plotting in secret! But I was delighted to be the unsuspecting medium who never saw it coming.

Recently, a new client was another first in terms of a quick connection from the spirit. She called me for a reading, and although she made no mention of wanting to connect with him, her father showed up during the session. We were seconds into the reading when I had to tell her, “Your father is here and he is with your mother and he is surrounded by pets and farm animals.

She burst into tears. Her father had died just two days before our session. This is truly a new record in my experience, but from what I have heard from other psychic mediums, it is certainly possible, though very rare. Why was he able to come through so soon? It was because he was a very spiritual, kind and non-materialistic man. I think he adapted to the spirit realm easily and immediately!

I always tell my clients before a session to have an open mind, because I have found that if they want to hear from certain deceased loved ones, or if they are very uptight about what they expect to hear, they tend to block the flow of energy. We get what we need to hear, and if our loved ones don’t always help us in our struggles, it may be that we need to figure out some lessons for ourselves in our karmic schoolroom here on earth.