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The Compassion Of Tough Love

Click Here NOW for a FREE psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comWe have an amazing tool within us: our heart. Not only does it keep us alive, but it also allows us to feel deep emotions, such as love and resentment, joy and sadness, achievement and loss, compassion and apathy.

Many people fail to see the power of the heart and what we as humans can do with that power for ourselves and others. The heart is in fact key to our personal and spiritual learning and our soul expansion in this lifetime.

However, many of us who strive to contribute to a better world with the power of our loving hearts have also seen that giving material things, like money, and trying to help those who refuse to help themselves, does not cure the suffering in the world. It usually only puts a band aid on the underlying problems and in time it just returns as additional problems.

We all have our own karmic lessons, and if not learned it becomes a recurring issue until we finally learn to fix it, learn from it, and move forward. Then it is no more a lesson, but a wisdom.

It is also true that we can get in the way of others learning their lessons. Sometimes we jump in too quickly or end up taking on their burden, only to find it happening again and again. Then all our efforts and sacrifice were in vain.

Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity ~ Pema Chödrön

Of course, there is nothing more beautiful than a giving heart. Kindness and caring is sorely lacking in our world today. But too much of it, too soon, or for the wrong reasons can also cripple others to never walk their own path. It can even prevent them from learning to rely on their own gifts and abilities to overcome adversity or block them from fulfilling their life purpose.

Whenever we decide to intervene on behalf of someone or try to give them a helping hand, we must always ask ourselves first if we are truly serving their best interest and really helping to empower them, instead of enabling them and therefore becoming part of their problem.

Those of us who are spiritually aware and highly empathic strive to be of service to humanity. As Lightworkers of this generation, we wish to heal the world with our love, care and goodwill. For example, we know that sending loving energy to others or praying for them increases their chances of healing and can bring them hope, peace and comfort.

But in serving others, we must also follow the universal flow of divine love and understand that we are only a small part of someone else’s journey at any given time. The free will journey that others choose is not always for us to understand or control.

We also need to understand the difference between charity, kindness and compassion. Charity involves giving to those who are truly in need, often through financial assistance, donations and volunteering, while kindness involves treating others with warmth, consideration and tolerance in our daily interactions.

Compassion, on the other hand, goes much deeper – it’s the ability to truly understand and empathize with the challenges and struggles of others, accompanied by a sincere desire to somehow help alleviate their suffering.

Compassion is what the Bible describes as “loving your neighbor as yourself.” In fact, it is the second commandment, after loving God with all one’s heart. In the Bhagavad Gita, Lord Krishna encourages selfless action and compassion for all living beings. And Buddhism teaches the concept of metta, the practice of loving kindness and benevolence. Metta is an essential aspect of Buddhist meditation and ethical behavior.

The emphasis on loving others as oneself encourages a selfless and compassionate approach to interpersonal relationships, promoting empathy, kindness, and concern for the well-being of others. When it comes to truly being of service, I’d say compassion should be our priority!

Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime ~ Lao Tzu

While charity and kindness are certainly valuable, compassion involves a deeper emotional connection and a genuine understanding of the struggles of others. It can empower both the giver and the receiver by fostering a sense of shared humanity and a desire for positive change.

Furthermore, if we harm ourselves in our attempt to help someone else, we are certainly not acting from a place of love, compassion, kindness, or even charity. For giving more than one has is not charity to oneself, causing oneself misery in the process of helping another is certainly not a kind thing to do to oneself, and causing oneself loss or harm in order to uplift another is certainly not an act of self-love or self-compassion.

In the words of spiritual teacher Abraham-Hicks, “You cannot become poor enough to help poor people prosper, or sick enough to help sick people heal. You only ever uplift others from your position of strength and clarity and alignment.”

Sometimes the negative falls on the plate of a loved one or someone close to us. As a heart-centered person, we feel their pain intensely and feel the need to help them. Of course, we want to help in any way we can, but we often forget that others also have their own path in life. While the way they choose to learn their lessons can sometimes be shocking and painful, we must also respect their chosen path. We can support them with patience, tolerance and understanding, send them healing energy and pray for them. But we have no right to step in and take over for them.

Note that the above does not apply to the truly helpless and needy! There are indeed people in the world, especially children, who face significant challenges, difficulties, or hardships that interfere with their ability to meet basic needs or function independently. They are in serious and immediate need. People in these circumstances absolutely deserve not only our compassion, but also our kindness and charity.

For example, there are vulnerable people in the world who are in a situation where they are unable to protect or advocate for themselves, unable to meet their basic survival needs, or unable to overcome certain obstacles without external support. This includes, but is not limited to, people with severe disabilities and people in acute crisis who are unable to cope with the challenges they face on their own. It is our spiritual and civic duty to approach people in such need with empathy and a recognition of the diverse circumstances that may lead them to seek assistance.

The universe vibrates with the positive energy of love and compassion, which is why we are all drawn to those with humanitarian hearts of caring and giving. We are meant to care for each other, and sometimes to feel the need to make things right for those we love, and even for strangers.

True compassion is more than flinging a coin to a beggar; it comes to see that an edifice which produces beggars needs restructuring ~ Martin Luther King Jr.

But we must also be careful not to interfere with the work of God. Divine design and divine intervention have ways of awakening and teaching others that are often not our prerogative to interfere with. In situations where others are struggling, especially those who are perfectly capable of helping themselves, it is sometimes our spiritual duty to step back and let God.

Yes, we are the keepers of the light, and we are meant to bring joy, love, hope and comfort to those around us as we all go through our own karmic lessons and life journeys. But we can be a ray of light and a positive influence in this world, even in the darkest and most difficult of times, without helping others from the frying pan into the inferno!

Sometimes true compassion requires some “tough love.” There are times when the most compassionate thing to do is to draw the line and to set firm boundaries with the intention of helping someone grow, learn, or overcome challenges. While tough love may seem harsh or unkind on the surface, its underlying motivation is rooted in genuine care and concern for someone’s well-being, even survival.

Compassion therefore doesn’t always mean being gentle or permissive. Sometimes it means taking a firm stand to guide someone toward positive change. This may include offering constructive criticism, enforcing consequences for negative behavior, and encouraging personal responsibility. The ultimate goal is to help the other person develop resilience, self-discipline, and a sense of responsibility.

At its core, tough love is a deeply compassionate approach because it seeks the long-term benefit of the individual, even if it involves short-term discomfort or challenges. It’s about expressing care and support in a way that encourages growth and positive change.

Everything happens for a reason and a purpose, and we cannot prevent the universal flow of karmic evolution. We can only help soften the blow by not feeding the negative energy, but instead flood the problem with the most powerful tool you have on earth, the compassionate power of your heart. This starts with self-love, self-care and self-compassion, because without being loving, compassionate, kind and charitable to yourself, you cannot truly be of service to anyone else.

About The Author: Krystal

Krystal's psychic talents with people and animals are as remarkable as her non-psychic adventures. Divinely gifted with multiple avenues for reading energy, she's hosted TV and radio psychic shows that quickly skyrocketed to #1. She has read for musical celebrities, provided lectures and is an Ordained Minister who has performed marriages and eulogies. She was also the first female race car driver, holding 4 titles, her accomplishments immortalized in a book! For over 4 decades, she has connected with her Guides, receiving visions and info from just the sound of a client's voice, and she's taught many devoted pupils to tap into and harness their own special gifts. From her dream home in Ohio on 200 acres that house a menagerie of animals, including mini-horses, Krystal can be found whittling walking sticks on her porch that tell a person's life story, and her readings will hone in on your unique life story, providing clarity on any concern. She brings balance, love, and healing, not to mention love and light to your life path. She has 12 natural spiritual gifts that require no tools to get the message across. Her guides offer detailed insights on all you need to know at the moment you enter her session. If you would like a reading with a psychic prodigy who's been reading since the age of 5, you can find Krystal at

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