Healing Your Inner Dialogue

Most of us talk to ourselves when we are alone, In fact, research findings on this phenomenon dates back as far as the 1880’s, concluding it is a common, normal behavior. However, doing it when others are around is probably less common, but if it makes you happy…go for it!

As spirit beings we all have an inner dialogue going on, pretty much at all times. At times we are highly conscious of it, but mostly it is like a white noise that punctuates the rest of our never-ending thoughts.

But what is this inner dialogue about? What is it saying to you? And what do you believe about the things you hear in this internal conversation? Have you ever stopped to ask yourself these questions? Do you ever pay proper attention to how you’re engaging in this most intimate conversation?

Our thoughts are energy signals that ultimately become our reality. Therefore, our internal dialogue creates the lens through which we are manifesting our daily reality experience. How we think about and interpret our experiences and emotions, what we believe and pay attention to, determines what we are busy creating for our tomorrow.

So, ask yourself right now: are you mostly kind to yourself? Are you optimistic about your life and the future? I often work with clients who are struggling with a negative view of themselves or a deeply pessimistic view of their reality. If this is you, then it is vital that you make some change to self-talk habits and self-sabotaging thought patterns.

Shifting from a negative mindset and pessimistic self-talk, to a place of empowerment requires determination and focused attention. Doing so can supercharge your ability to manifest a state of flow with Universal abundance.

Your mind, emotions, and body are instruments and the way you align and tune them determines how well you play life ~ Harbhajan Singh Yogi

Notice that when you think one thought, it doesn’t just remain an isolated thought. One thought always spurs on more thoughts, and we make a choice to either follow those thought trails, or not. Our brains become programmed as we do this and as a result, if we are always going towards the negative aspects in our lives that becomes our habit.

Meditation

One of the best methods to take control of our inner conversation is through meditation. Quieting our mind allows us to take note of intrusive thoughts. It also focuses our attention on our consciousness as being separate from our thoughts. This helps fosters the understanding that thoughts are just experiences which we can choose to engage in – or not.

If meditation seems a bit too ambitious to start with, that’s okay! Here are a couple of additional steps you can take to help you create a more harmonious inner world:

Positive Thinking

Instead of trying to rid your mind of negative thoughts, simply start replacing it with positive ones. When you catch yourself being critical of yourself or negative about a situation, consciously make yourself think of three positive aspects instead. This takes your mind away from a negative focus and, at least for a few moments, offers a different perspective.

Doing this is going to feel very odd and even unnatural at first. Stick with it! In time, this will become normal for your brain, and you won’t even have to make a conscious effort to bring such positive thoughts forward.

Basically, don’t worry about trying to ‘get rid’ of the negative thoughts. Instead begin by consciously creating the positive thoughts you do want, even if this feels mechanical at first.

It is not always possible to do away with negative thinking, but with persistence and practice, one can gain mastery over them so that they do not take the upper hand ~ Stephen Richards

Affirmations

Affirmations work! You just have to be consistent. Stick a note on your bathroom mirror that asks you: What are you grateful for today? Make a habit of listing three things every morning that you have to be grateful for – even if you have to really reach for it. You can also make a Why I’m Awesome journal in which you write down three successes you have each day. You don’t have to list only exceptional or amazing things, simply give yourself credit for the small stuff. Little things add up to big things.

We all have difficult days. It’s especially important to be self-loving during such times. Give yourself room to feel what you need to. Shifting out of a negative inner dialogue isn’t about turning away from your darker emotions. It’s important to process and move through those emotions, and to honor them as part of your journey.

The goal isn’t to never have negative thoughts, but rather, to manage what it is you believe about those thoughts and about yourself. What are you ‘buying into,’ and is it in your highest good?

Getting to know ourselves on this level can transform our perspectives on the world and our place in it, and thus it can transform our future potentials.