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The Pitfalls Of Anger For The Empath

Get a free psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comOf all the emotions that empaths experience, the most powerful and potentially destructive feeling is anger. Of course, anger can be destructive to everyone, but for the empath it can be especially potent. The reason for this is that empaths feel first, and react, then think later.

The more intense the emotion the deeper the connection. The initial response for empaths is either to react with equal force to the anger, which often involves a very intense and potentially catastrophic outburst, or for the introverted empath to run or flee the immediate area or person emitting that energy. Many of these highly sensitive souls will burst into tears at what appears to be inappropriate moments for no reason.

Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath ~ Eckhart Tolle

Because it is very common for empaths to be aware of feelings, emotions or situations, before others are aware themselves, anger becomes very complicated. If the other individual is a partner in a romantic relationship, anger can become a land mine. Ditto if it is a co-worker. Partners and co-workers can begin to pull back, attack or avoid altogether. This only fuels the anger that the empath is feeling and increases the stress and anxiety. An empath under extreme stress is like a caged tiger – pacing, miserable and just waiting to pounce, or escape.

Headaches, ulcers, high blood pressure or turned inward depression, insomnia, digestive issues all are possible physical results for the empath who cannot effectively process anger.
When I started doing readings I learned very quickly what unprocessed anger from others can do. Empaths “step into” the feelings of others and regardless of what is being said we will feel what is really going on. Old anger feels very heavy and turns into bitterness or resentment – extremely unpleasant.  Fresh pain has a much “hotter” feel to it, much like standing to close to an open flame.

First and foremost, remember that anger is very often at the core about fear. If you as an empath can take a breath and go beyond the surface many times you will feel the shift to fear or pain.  The anger is just acting like a shield from fear or further pain. It has no potential to harm you unless you step into its direct path; take it on as your own; or feed it with your own reactions and emotions. Think of it as a fire that requires oxygen to thrive.

Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die ~ Malachy McCourt

Empaths are gifted healers and your calm reaction to anger can have a very powerful effect on others, as well as yourself. You as an empath must calm yourself first and the fastest way to do this is to remind yourself that is isn’t coming from you, but through you. This allows you to step back and observe what you are feeling and seeing and cut to the root of it. If it is a romantic partner this is especially important for the empath.  Bring the energy of compassion, respect, willingness and love to the forefront. If it is a co-worker then less is more. Your unspoken energy of compassion, peace, respect and calm can quickly calm any angry energy.

About The Author: Angelic Heights

Empathic, intuitive, psychic from a very young age, Angelic Heights (Gail) learned well the importance of using her gifts for the highest good. Marriage and a career in the paralegal field occupied her until her early 30's. Accurate, compassionate and direct, her focus now is entirely on enlightening, uplifting, inspiring and guiding those who seek her counsel. Get a reading right now with her at

8 Responses to The Pitfalls Of Anger For The Empath

  • This is the absolute best description of an Impath, I was born with this gift, after 60+years” I finally have a clear definition and I now accept my gift, this post is a true blessing for me, Namaste

  • I feel so terrible b/c I just had an anger outburst with my brother. I’m still trying to figure out if I am in the empath category but after my huge blow-up, I was sure that anyone who could act like that, wouldn’t be an empath. Thanks for the article. It applies to all types of people, I think.

    It really helps me in particular since I have struggled with this all of my life. My family doesn’t seem to understand me, so I usually keep it bottled up inside. When I do tell them, they don’t see the situation I do and tell me I am over sensitive and dramatic. Why? Because I don’t believe in treating each other badly? Every day the past week, I have cried due to something that my brother has said. But is it really his fault? Or mine for reacting to it? How do you deal with a person who gives you a bad attitude, tells you to shut-up, and deliberately tries to hurt your feelings on a day to day basis? I realize this is toxic, but I cannot leave this living situation right now unfortunately. He is a good, kind-hearted person when he is not resenting me. But when he is, I can’t seem to figure out why, he will not communicate it to me, and we just go around in circles of him verbally attacking me and me trying to ignore it until I can’t anymore and I explode. I want to know what to do to help out a stop to this. It’s effecting my health, mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

  • It helps a lot to go to Therapy for anger management. I’m not only an empath but a double minority: Asian American and Gay–I spent my life excelling in school and in every job BUT I’ve lost all those jobs due to some kind of anger outburst. I’m in a new job and excelling once again but within my first two weeks already had run-ins with not one but THREE staff members! Most empaths are diagnosed with ADHD so I also suggest to get medicated on a short term basis until you’ve trained yourself to control your emotions and impulsiveness, all of which are destructive personally and professionally. I want to keep this job so I’m continuing therapy, wear Crystals(I believe in crystal healing) and also have gone back to Church. Each empath need to find their vehicles for CLEANSING that works for them.

  • Is there a way to mute or get rid of empathy? It’s ruining my life and I can’t take it anymore. I am miserable. I cry everyday. I yell at my kids. I am so unhappy and I just want to be normal. My marriage is on its last thread. How can I get control of “gift “?

  • Mary…embrace your gift. You can rid your pent up emotions by breathing. Go outside before anyone wakes up. I meditate at 4am…GOD. Demands my time…to speak to me… you breathe in its positive energy as you exhale its releasing negative energy. Take your quiet time….as I say BEFORE THE NATIVES. GET RESTLESS…

  • I agree with Mary. I just wish it would go away forever. Just ended my second marriage to a narcissist. I am just done.

  • Being an empath sucks. People are so mean and it will never stop because of the freedom of choice. Keep your gift to yourself and bury it. People will only use you until you have no use or benefit anymore.

  • I feel like my life is coming to a screeching halt. I’ve had enough of healing and helping others. people seem to forget that I have feelings and needs as well. I’m the strong woman, empath, confidant and comedian of all my social groups but they forget I have feelings. I get it I can take a lot but my cup runneth over. It’s like people take and take until there’s nothing left of me. So it feels like I’m running low on fuel. It’s like they’ve taken the joy from me.

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