The Truth Be Told

Have you ever been told you are just too honest? Well, I have, and this very statement has given me a lot of food for thought. I have been wondering why being honest does not typically win any popularity contests?

It took a lot of meditation and mulling it over in my mind for several days, for me to finally decide how I felt about people being ‘too honest.’

Truth be told, I would much rather be honest and deal with other ‘overly honest’ people, than the opposite. I prefer not to have people smile to my face, and then later stab me in the back.

A client who has been reading with me for over a decade, came for a session recently. She was very depressed and teary-eyed. Before we even started, I saw in my mind’s eye my symbol for a broken heart. I also saw that she would find healing, but not soon.

It soon unfolded that her boyfriend of two years had in fact broken up with her and moved out. Spirit then showed me that she had been too honest with him. “He doesn’t always appreciate it when you tell him the truth,” I said. “Even when he asked you for your honest opinion, he would be offended when you gave it to him.

“Yes,” she replied, “the reason he moved on was that I was too honest and direct for his liking.” Just unbelievable, I thought to myself.

Apparently, many people feel it’s okay to tell a little white lie. This is usually the case when they feel being very honest will possibly hurt the other person’s feelings. In my mind, when you ask for an honest opinion, then you are open to the truth. If not, then don’t ask. When I ask my best friend if a pair of blue jeans makes my butt look big, then I really want to know – the truth!

This is what I love about doing readings. Spirit only gives truthful and honest answers. The recipient of this guidance then knows how their choices will influence the direction or the outcome of a situation.

Truth is like the sun. You can shut it out for a time, but it ain’t goin’ away ~ Elvis Presley

Unfortunately, some readers are not always upfront about what the information they receive. And some clients prefer readers who downplay or sugar-coat readings. It is never easy for the reader to deliver information that a client does not want to hear, but how to deliver the difficult messages in a diplomatic, kind and caring way is what makes a great reader.

Some clients will say something like, “I just don’t want to hear anything bad.” Other clients will say, “I don’t care how harsh the message is, don’t candy coat anything. I want to know it all. Give me the truth and be honest.” Spirit does not give information that the client is not ready to hear, but spirit also does not engage in ‘white lies.’ The client may come back in a month or a year and be ready to hear the truth then. It’s always the client’s reading. I trust and believe spirit knows what is best and when to reveal the full truth.

Without courage we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can’t be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest ~ Maya Angelou

By the way, my heartbroken client’s ex-boyfriend is not a guy who likes to tell the truth. He lied to her all the time about all kinds of mundane things, that she felt not necessary for him to be deceptive about. Well, when a person is so used to lying about everything, then it comes as no surprise that honesty and truth might be uncomfortable for them.

There is an old saying that the truth will always come to the light, sooner or later! And there is another saying that the truth shall set you free. At the end of the day we must all decide how important truth and honesty is to us, and live our lives accordingly.