Kindness Begins With Greater Self-Care

In a world where you can be anything, be kind. And kindness starts with being kind to yourself. When we are not kind to ourselves, we cannot be kind to others, and others will also be unkind to us! When we are not kind to ourselves we allow that type of behavior, be it from a spouse, sibling, friend, or relative.

So, kindness really starts with us. When we are kind to ourselves, the domino effect is that we are happier, healthier and more energized. When we are not carving out time for self-care, we are not being kind to ourselves, and cannot truly be kind to others.

Sometimes people can be unkind not even realizing it. How is that? Well, by playing the part of the victim, or acting like others are responsible for their happiness or contentment. They make others feel guilty, because they are putting their problems upon others, without realizing that it is often their own self-made issues.

Everyone has free will. We are ultimately where we choose to put ourselves. In the end no one else is to blame. Period.

A vital aspect of self-kindness is to employ healthy boundaries when others make us feel bad, because they are sad and unhappy. When we take better care of ourselves and come in alignment with our soul, body and mind, we can recognize this. You are not put upon this Earth to energetically fill up the cups of others. Learn to say no, and learn to stand up for yourself when others try to take advantage of you. This is one important way of being kind to yourself.

Self-care is never a selfish act—it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others ~ Parker Palmer

Once we learn to be kind to ourselves, we can be truly kind to others, we can let our light shine in the brightest way and give more freely, and know our own limits. We no longer allow others to drop their poison upon us, with their negative comments. We become liberated from environments and relationships that are not healthy and nurturing.

So, in a world where you can be anything at all, please start by being kind to yourself. We are living in times where we must embrace this and start recognizing that self-care does matter in such a way that it can save lives. You can’t save the world and you are not meant to make everyone happy. But you can do much more for others, once you have first mastered the fine art of being kind to yourself. Stop allowing others to manipulate your feelings and making you feel guilty, for you are enough.

We can take care of our loved ones much better, says spirit, if we take care of ourselves and our own needs first. Otherwise we will blow up, snap and have all kinds of mental health issues. Taking the time every single day to pave the way for a healthier, happier self. If everyone took proper care of themselves first, and then gave what was left to others, we would all be much more happy and contented in our world. If we all came together to help one another with genuinely happy hearts, it would be Heaven on Earth.