Thank You For Leaving Me

Heartbreak is never easy. I have heard the words, “But I love him,” so many times after a break-up. I have also heard, “No one can replace her.” I have even heard, “I’ll never even think about another person in this way, or even try to find someone new.”

Who is this mindset hurting? Look at the reality of it. It’s not hurting the other person, who walked out on the relationship. They walked out for a reason. Often they have also moved on with someone new. The only person being hurt, by hanging on, is the person hanging on.

I have also heard, “She is my soulmate,” or “He is my twin flame.” Well, if they are not on the same page as you in this lifetime, and not committed to making the relationship work, then they are not your soulmate, or twin flame. It takes a commitment from both parties.

Love is subjective. Love has to be equal from both people involved. However, when only one has their heart and soul invested, it will never last. If someone is able to walk out on the first argument, it is definitely not meant to be. If there is ever disrespect, it is also not meant to be.

I have also been at this place in my life. I was devastated when my husband walked out. I thought I had failed, but then I realized the truth. The marriage was over long before this happened. The equality of feelings was long gone, and respect was non-existent. He controlled what I did, even how I thought at times, and was wreaking havoc on my self-esteem.

Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together ~ Marilyn Monroe

The day I came to this self-realization, when I started to grow and prosper in my life, I was grateful for all that he taught me. He taught me to be stronger than I have ever been. He taught me what a narcissist was, so I can spot them a mile away now. He taught me what a liar and cheater was from their DNA. I also learned valuable life lessons in moving forward in my life.

Here I am, 16 years later, celebrating my best life ever. It all happened when I started to give thanks for the ex-husband leaving me. Had I remained with him, I would have never grow as an individual. I would have never had this wonderful family relationship I now have with my children and grandchildren. And I would have never found my true life partner who I have been with for 15 years now.

I was not looking for another, however, I was looking for someone to laugh with. The Universe brought that in for me. He was an old friend, from my teenage years, and our youngest children had grown up together. We had always been friends and our paths crossed here and there throughout the years. However, I never imagined that someday we would be partnered for life.

We must be willing to let go of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us ~ Joseph Campbell

When I truly gave thanks to God, Universe, Source, for giving my ex-husband the wherewithal to walk out that door and leave me so raw and vulnerable, is when the world finally shifted for me. My life changed for the better. Had I held on to the notion of never moving on, waiting for him forever, and never loving another, I would still be stuck exactly back there, still being that person I was 16 years ago. I have since grown so much!

If you are currently also set on a certain person being the ‘only one’ for you, I encourage you to open your eyes, heart and soul. Soon you will see that you are worth so much more. Give thanks when someone walks away. Yes, it hurts, but when you give thanks for the Universe taking that person out of your life, then someone so much better can come in. The Universe will also show you what you need to learn for yourself. You are so loved and you are worthy of love and respect. Never be someone’s option or second choice. You deserve to be number one.