Letting Go Of Guilt
We all like to be perceived as a nice person, and it can go very much against the grain if we were to be seen as otherwise! Therefore, should we have an argument with a dear friend or colleague, and as a result take on board blame for something we are actually not responsible for, we immediately start to feel unhappy.
Spirit teaches that while it is most necessary to acknowledge any actions we have made, or any part we have played in an argument, guilt can but only exaggerate any feelings of remorse! Furthermore, when we allow guilt, for whatever reason, to build up within ourselves, we may even take on board the idea that we are a ‘bad person’ and do not, therefore, deserve the best in life.
Guilt is a useless feeling. It’s never enough to make you change direction – only enough to make you useless ~ Daniel Nayeri
Wrong! We are human, and human beings can change. True, our actions may not always be the right ones, but this doesn’t mean to say that we are a bad person or that we deserve to be punished. No, by being human we make mistakes and, on occasion, we may need to change our reactions in certain circumstances (especially challenging ones) and as a result allow ourselves to improve and grow. This is a much healthier take on things says spirit!
While this is very true, taking such a ‘healthy approach’ is somewhat easier said than done. After all, we have grown up in a world in which our elders, friends and society tell us what is good and bad – but are they always right? Not always, no. This can, on occasion, prompt us to judge ourselves unfairly and carry a very unnecessary burden of guilt around with us as a result.
So, just how do we deal with this? Consider the following spiritual advice if you would.
If you have done something wrong, then genuinely regret it by all means, but do so while being self-respectful at the same time. Resolve never to do the same thing again and as a result, this will empower you and should leave you feeling optimistic to boot!
Release your anger towards the other party. Anger, the same as guilt, can become somewhat over exaggerated. By doing so you will help yourself to become a more compassionate, loving human being – all because you did something wrong in the first place!
You may also wish to consider the following to release guilt gently and thus prevent overload.
Look at the lesson you have learned from the situation. Should you fear the same thing happening again, consider different ways to act when the time comes. We influence the future, remember, and this is one positive way of doing so!
We see our sins reflected everywhere: in the pallor of our intimates’ faces, in the scratching of tree branches against windows, in the strange movements of everyday objects ~ Anna Godbersen
If you feel the need to apologize to any other party, by all means, do so. However, should they not accept your apology, then you need to acknowledge that as their problem, not yours and your acknowledging your regret is more than enough.
It is important to remember that guilt, like worry, is a negative emotion. But that said, it does not mean to say that you are a negative person. However, negative emotions are blocks to progress. People have a tendency to use guilt as a block, by not allowing themselves to be happy, as in doing so, they may not like what other people may have to say about it. Spirit teaches, however, that to help other people become happy, we need to be happy and content within ourselves first. Allowing ourselves to let go of any guilt can only be effective in this respect.
Learn the art of being good to yourself, as in doing so you will, in turn, learn the art of being good to others. Furthermore, by learning to forgive others, you will learn how to forgive yourself. In short, where there is compassion, guilt does not exist, because compassion is not judgmental.
On a final note, it is also important to let go of guilt for manifestation reasons. Should you be a regular reader of my blogs, you will know that I have written about the Law of Attraction and how to endeavor to attract to ourselves that which we desire and deserve. If we do not deal with our guilt, we may take on board the belief system that we do not deserve happiness and abundance in our lives. By doing so, we would send out the wrong message to the Universe. The universe only sends back to us what we believe we are going to receive. Send out the message that you not deserve something, and you will not receive it. Simple as that.
It would be far better to deal with any guilt issues before going about the art of manifestation, which should be better for you and your fellow man! It’s time to start living a more guilt-free life.
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