How To Manifest The Love Of Your Life

The Law of Attraction has become a widely practiced metaphysical principle in popular culture since the success of the 2006 book and film The Secret, which is based on the spiritual teachings of the New Thought movement that began in the late 18th century.

New Thought is a spiritual philosophy based on the notion that everything in the universe is essentially energy, including our beliefs, ideas and thoughts, and that like energy attracts like energy. This is known as the Law of Attraction, one of several universal, metaphysical laws that govern the Universe.

The practice of this universal law to manifest personal goals or outcomes has become more common in post-modern metaphysics and alternative spirituality, especially as information has become more readily available through the Internet.

But while there is a vast amount of information available on the subject today, the Law of Attraction is often misunderstood and poorly applied in the practice of manifestation.

There are certain avoidable pitfalls that cause many inexperienced practitioners to become frustrated, disappointed or to give up before achieving their goals. This is especially true when it comes to manifesting romantic love.

If you have not had the best results with your manifestation efforts and are still hoping to attract a better love life, try the following improvement strategies to increase the success of your manifestation efforts. These techniques can be used to attract a new relationship, as well as to improve an existing relationship or marriage.

The instant we realign with love, the Universe responds powerfully. In any given moment, we can change our story and say yes to what we truly want. As soon as we do, the Universe delivers ~ Gabrielle Bernstein

Time

The first rule of a successful manifestation practice is strict self-discipline. Set a time limit for your manifestation practice and ideally make it part of a broader spiritual practice. A daily manifestation practice should ideally last at least five minutes, but no more than about ten to fifteen minutes.

If you are practicing manifestation many hours every day it is likely that you have lost touch with reality. This is not a manifestation practice; it is living in a fantasy. Manifesting with the Law of Attraction is about calling invisible reality into form. If you spend most of your life in an ethereal fantasy, you are likely disconnected from actual physical form and there is no reality basis for the desired outcome to become manifest.

Centering

It is important to begin by centering before beginning a manifestation visualization. Centering simply means becoming present in the external environment around you, as well as becoming present internally by shutting down thoughts and self-talk that are inconsistent with your focused goal.

Focused breathing is a good way to become centered. For example, do some basic diaphragmatic breathing by placing your hands on your belly, just below your navel, or on the sides of your ribcage. As you breathe in, allow your belly to soften and expand. As you exhale, let your abdomen sink back toward your spine. Take a few deep breaths until you are ready to begin your visualization.

Visualization

The next step is to visualize your desired, ideal relationship. Visualization works best with your eyes closed, but do whatever feels most natural to you. It will take a few days to develop a completely clear and vivid vision of your perfect relationship. As you visualize, answer certain key questions. What is your partner’s personality like? Their physical appearance? How do you interact? What do you enjoy doing together? Visualize the ultimate relationship scenarios that reflect your desired outcome.

“Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it ~ Rumi

Presence

Complete awareness and presence in the moment are essential to an effective manifestation practice. It is important to imagine all your relationship visualizations as present moment experiences. Visualizations projected indefinitely into the future tend to manifest very slowly, or not at all! For maximum benefit, the visualization must be experienced as if it were happening right now. Practitioners who project their intention into the future will get exactly that: the potential manifestation will remain unmanifested and out there in the distant future until it is brought into the present.

Specificity

The biggest pitfall for practitioners who wish to manifest a romantic relationship is to place one’s intention on a specific person that you are interested in or have a crush on. Some people have an ex-partner they want to get back together with, a co-worker they find alluring, or a friend they secretly hope to date. Focusing your manifestation practice on a specific person is not recommended. If you find that your mind wants to use the image of someone you know or used to love, then replace that mental image with someone more generic, such as a character from a movie, book, or piece of art. The idea is certainly not to make the visualization vague or obscure, but to keep the real object of your current attraction or affection out of the picture.

You’re probably wondering, why not focus on the object of your desire? Well, we may think we know who we want to be with, or who is best for us, whereas God, Source, Spirit, the Divine, always knows better. It is wise to let the Universe choose the ideal partner for us. Even if you already have a connection with someone, there is usually negative emotion and resistant energy attached to that situation. Whether it is separation, lack of commitment, dysfunction, disagreement, or outright conflict, the vibrational energy associated with that person may not be very conducive to upgrading your current vibration.

If you cannot stop focusing on the current object of your attraction or affection, you are likely to recreate the same unwanted results over and over again, simply because you have not shifted your vibration away from the existing energy associated with your current manifested experience. On the other hand, people who are willing to take a more open, unrestricted approach tend to manifest their desired partner much more easily and quickly. This is because they align their vibrational frequency of desire with the energy of connection, rather than separation, and transcend their past resistance and self-limiting issues.

Meeting your soulmate has a certain amount of meant-to-be-ness to it, and it requires a big dose of make-it-happen-ness ~ Arielle Ford

Gratitude

The most important and often neglected aspect of the manifestation process is gratitude. Practitioners who successfully manifest their goals and desires tend to have a consistent attitude of gratitude in their lives.

Why is gratitude so important in manifestation? First, it raises awareness. People tend to get energetically stuck in negativity and lack because they do not pay attention to the good things that already exist in their lives. Second, gratitude creates a new expectation for a better future, rather than dwelling on the past or what is currently lacking in our lives. We cannot manifest love, joy and fulfillment if we are focused on unhappiness, loneliness, lack or scarcity. Gratitude for what we already have in our lives radiates an energy of abundance that attracts even more things to be grateful for.

As part of your manifestation practice, take a few minutes each day to review your life and find a few daily events, situations and experiences that brought you joy, happiness, hope, beauty, peace or excitement. Find a few good things in your day that you can appreciate and be grateful for. They do not have to be big, impressive things or events. A good way to practice this is to keep a gratitude journal.

At first, you will probably focus on more general things and experiences, such as having food on the table, a roof over your head, and a warm bed to sleep in. These are indeed important daily blessings to be grateful for and a great place to start your gratitude practice. The goal, however, is not to focus on the same things to be grateful for over and over again, as this quickly loses its vibrational impact. The idea is to constantly find new things to be grateful for in your life, which increasingly changes your perspective on life and evolves your attitude of gratitude.

It is imperative that gratitude be practiced first, before it is integrated into the manifestation practice. One must be in an authentic state of gratitude in order to successfully use it as a tool in the manifestation process. Once you have fully integrated an attitude of gratitude into your daily awareness, you can begin to integrate it into the visualization practice and feel grateful for the relationship you see during the manifestation practice. This will strengthen your attraction point and put you on the fast track to achieving your goal.