What Comes First: Friendship Or Romance?

Is it really necessary to build a solid foundation of friendship when you already have a gut feeling that the person you just met might be “the one”?

This is a question I sometimes get from clients seeking a love or relationship reading. They want to know whether they should focus on building a friendship first if they feel that their relationship has the potential to lead to a long-term commitment or marriage.

The answer can vary depending on the people involved and the unique dynamics of their relationship.

While there’s no one-size-fits-all answer, building a friendship can provide a stable foundation for the deeper layers of a romantic relationship. Friendship helps create a space where mutual respect, understanding, and shared values can flourish – qualities that are crucial to a lasting partnership.

I find many folks jump into a relationship with both feet, convinced they’ve found their true soulmate, only to be disappointed later.

Developing a strong friendship with your partner can be incredibly beneficial. It allows you to get to know each other on a deeper level without the pressure or distractions that often come with romantic and physical intimacy. In a friendship, you’re more likely to feel comfortable being your authentic self. This authenticity can lead to a stronger emotional connection, which can then become the foundation for a more serious romantic connection.

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