Embrace Your Personal Power In Relationships

Our relationships have great power and influence in our lives. In particular, many of us spend countless hours pursuing love and romance. Then, once we are in a relationship, we spend even more time and energy thinking about it, confiding in friends about it…often trying to make the relationship different or better.

I deal with this almost daily as I have counseled hundreds of lovesick, frustrated, and heartbroken clients over the years.

“If only he would do what I want, things would be different,” some of my clients might say. “If only he would be more open and honest, maybe I could trust him more.” Truth be told, I have heard similar words come out of my own mouth about my own relationships more times than I care to admit!

Unfortunately, instead of successfully influencing our partner’s words or behavior, we are often left feeling disappointed, betrayed, frustrated, powerless, or out of control. It is draining, pointless, and definitely not the best use of one’s time and energy.

So how do we change it? How do we take emotional control of our life and our relationships? The answer is shockingly simple.

It is all about taking a different, broader perspective on relationships and what they are here to teach us. A quote from Unity Church’s Daily Word magazine perfectly captures this shift in perspective: “Through our relationships with one another, we express the power, presence and love of God.”

Someone with a high sense of personal power is not dependent on their partner to make them feel a certain way. They can recognize their strengths, are less likely to seek approval, and avoid toxic relationships because they focus on their own worth ~ Catherine O’Brien

When we take this approach with our relationships, it changes our mindset. Instead of obsessing over what the other person is thinking or going to do next, we begin to embrace our personal power in the relationship to control our own thinking and behavior. We take the opportunity to reflect and see if and how we are an expression of divine, sacred love in our relationships.

Am I being honest and sincere? Do I act with love and kindness, or do I come from a place of fear, mistrust, and neediness? Are my relationships loving, supportive and inspiring, or are they judgmental, controlling and fear-based? More importantly, what do my current relationships tell me about my relationship with God, Source, Spirit, the Divine?

Spirit has repeatedly shown me that the more we take time to reflect on ourselves and the limitations and restrictions created by our own attitudes, mindsets, thoughts and beliefs, the more we open up to the true potential of magic and miracles in our lives, including our relationships.

Our spirituality also enriches our personal relationships by cultivating compassion, empathy, unconditional love, forgiveness, and a deeper understanding of our interconnectedness. It inspires us to be more tolerant of others, to let go of fear and negativity, and to truly embrace the present moment with gratitude and joy. As we grow on our spiritual path, we bring more of these qualities to our interpersonal interactions, fostering meaningful connections and enriching our relationships.