When Too-Close-For-Comfort Reveals The Truth

So, here is something new, which I have not heard before in my work: distraught clients asking for help while quarantined with their partner or spouse. For some, being cooped up with their significant other is apparently not going very well!

The circumstances that we are all going through at the moment, is forcing us to take another look at our closest relationships and see if they are meant to be long lasting, or if it is only a chapter or season in our life. Some relationships start off wonderful like a TV commercial, one minute it is heavenly, and then one day not so much.

So, let me share a recent Tarot reading I did for a gentleman, who said it helped them a lot during this too-close-for-comfort time at home with his wife. Who knows, maybe it will be of value to you too? It might just rescue your mental health, happiness and well-being…until they let the two of you out of the house again.

He said that he is a great problem-solver, but just can’t figure out how to make this marriage work. He never saw certain aspects of his wife’s personality, until he has now been forced to have to be around her for a very long extended period of time during the Covid-19 lockdown. He also admitted that sometimes it’s hard to really connect his feelings to things going on in his life, only because he “can be moody.” But we soon discovered the real truth about his toxic relationship.

In the reading, I saw that he has had many relationships in his life and he acknowledged that he had been married several times. I said that I felt it did not work out because he didn’t get the necessary support he needed from his mates in the past.

Some people live in cages with bars built from the choices others made for them, the circumstances other people imposed upon them. And some people break free ~  C. JoyBell C

I then asked him if it was true that he tended to rush into relationships, or initially had affairs with his former partners while they were already in another marriage or relationship. “Yes,” he admitted, “Often. What your seeing is correct. I can’t lie.”

I also said that whenever an ex-wife or girlfriend would try and talk about things that were touchy or emotional, or might force him to do some deep self-examination, he would do everything to avoid it. He said, “Bingo! You hit the nail right on the head.” He said he always seemed to upset his wives by being unpredictable and changing how he felt about things, and even about them, after he found out their shortcomings and past mistakes.

He recently also found out some negative things about his current wife and brought it to her attention. She blew up at him in defense, and he saw a side of her that he had never seen before. He had the feeling she was a bit unstable. “This is not who I agreed to marry,” he thought. He says he wished he would had kept to himself the things he had found out about her, after witnessing and enduring that explosion. He is now conflicted in his feelings, wondering if he is being mislead in some way, going down the wrong path.

I did share with him that there were two spirit entities attached to him, which I observed through the healing art of Reiki, and was able to work with him and get it detached from his being. He also had to do some spiritual work on his own. He felt lighter after removing these negative entities. He said it was easier for him now to channel with more clarity and to see things as they really are with his wife.

He realizes more and more that his wife doesn’t really give him a whole lot of emotional support, with him having always been a bit unconventional and never wanting to fit in with others. She is always very verbal about her feelings and felt he didn’t really have that gift too much himself. He felt like a counselor or a patient listener for most of her problems, while she wasn’t much interested in his feelings.

Poisonous relationships can alter our perception. You can spend many years thinking you’re worthless. But you’re not worthless. You’re underappreciated ~ Steve Maraboli

Apparently, she also admitted that she simply likes to talk a lot and in a way confessed that the world does revolve around her, and that she took everything as a personal attack. When she speaks it can paint a very different picture as to who she really is. She has a great knack for putting her own ideals and values into words, and that at first they had great, stellar conversations. But found that as the years went on they were running in different directions and that a lot of the things she suggested was not in his best interest.

She wants her own independence, but gets on him when he goes to have his, which isn’t fair. I then saw that she was talking to other men and would do so to manipulate him, and he didn’t like that. She often rubs him the wrong way. He also came out and said that she has some pretty odd ideas how to attract his attention nowadays. He called her influence on his life ‘restricting.’ He finds it completely draining to put up with her need for confrontation and lack of support, and he is tired of her explosive reactions and his feelings always being hurt. He is tired of the tension and tired of transforming to keep appeasing her.

I advised him to take a stand and start talking to her about how he truly felt. I also suggested he started his sentences with “I feel,” instead of “you.”

He tried this, but she became again very argumentative and he then got tongue tied. She was very critical of him on everything he said. It’s always about her and she continually has to rehash everything, over and over. And he is so done with that! There is never a happy medium with her, he felt. She is always going through something and it is literally always about her.

So, he finally stepped back completely and simply said what was once good is no longer the case and that he was through with the confrontations. I told him I was proud of him for taking a stand and saying how he felt, and to continue being strong. He said it was an expensive lesson to learn, but he said he will stop marrying women just because it seems right in the early days. He will first date the person for longer, before getting married.

I am happy to report that his energy is now much stronger and he seems much happier and healthier. A weight has been lifted from his shoulders. He says that if it weren’t for the coronavirus lockdown, he would have not known how happy and different his life could be. The moral of the story: never marry someone who you cannot imagine yourself being locked down with in isolation for a month, or longer. And if you are not sure, make a real effort to get to know them first.