We Are All Worthy Of Forgiveness

Sometimes my brokenhearted clients ask when the person they love will also hurt the way they have been hurt by them. They have been wounded, sometimes very deeply, and they so desperately want to know that the one who hurt them will also suffer in the end. Preferably, a lot!

They desire retribution for all the pain, suffering and deceit they have suffered due this person. There has to be some kind of justice. Isn’t there some form of karma, they will ask pleadingly.

Some spiritual teachings and belief systems suggest that our most emotionally challenging experiences in this lifetime occur as a result of life lessons we have agreed upon with other souls, before being born into this particular lifetime. This concept is known as our life plan, soul agreement or soul contract, among other.

These challenges can present themselves as blockages and patterns, that we aspire to finally recognize on a soul level and then to rise above – too often after repeating the same lessons many times over during this lifetime and others.

Yes, it makes sense to me that there is a profound lesson in harsh, life-changing experiences, but it’s not so easy to see it that way, and to believe it could be something we would have agreed to, especially when we hurt so badly now.

Also, telling someone that their emotional pain is part of their life path or soul evolution, or for the benefit of their spiritual growth, isn’t often what a person wants to hear at a certain challenging moment in time.

Until we have seen someone’s darkness, we don’t really know who they are. Until we have forgiven someone’s darkness , we don’t really know what love is ~ Marianne Williamson

At a later stage, they might come to an understanding that it is liberating to forgive ourselves for ‘allowing’ any form of abuse or suffering we endured, once we acknowledge that we may actually have had some control over preventing it, or putting a stop to.

But often we feel we were in an abusive situation over which we had no control, as in the case of childhood abuse of any kind. A Course In Miracles talks of how forgiveness is the key. Forgiving another person certainly can feel like a weight is being lifted from our own shoulders.

I found it so interesting recently to hear the view of well-known psychic medium Theresa Caputo, the “Long Island Medium,” in one of her YouTube video clips. I happened to see the clip when I was aimlessly scrolling through streaming channels on my TV. I was ill in bed at the time, and had lost my voice for a few days, so I couldn’t do much else!

Caputo was doing a reading for a lady whose spouse had passed away. He came through with great remorse and apologies for the hurt and embarrassment he’d caused her over the years. While he was in this life, the grieving wife could never understand how harsh and indifferent he had been towards her, despite her efforts to try to make her late husband aware of his hurtful actions.

Caputo then explained to the lady that when a soul crosses over they see and feel for the first time what it is really like to be in the wounded individual’s shoes. The recently deceased soul then sees a life review, what we would liken to ‘a movie’ of their recent life on Earth. As they observe this, they also feel the pain and suffering they’ve caused others.

Caputo was insistent that the guilty party would feel the intensity of any pain and suffering ‘tenfold.’ She added that only after their life review can the soul proceed with their journey fully on the other side.

You either get bitter or you get better. It’s that simple. You either take what has been dealt to you and allow it to make you a better person, or you allow it to tear you down. The choice does not belong to fate, it belongs to you ~ Josh Shipp

Several deceased family members have come through with messages for me, sometimes years after them crossing over, to say how sorry they were for their behavior towards me. Some were asking me to forgive them, and even try to think of them kindly sometimes.

Once, I was minding my own business during a break, whilst on a workshop at the Arthur Findlay College for the Advancement of Spiritualism and Psychic Science in the United Kingdom. I was just relaxing, simply enjoying the overall vibe there, when a lady from another workshop group approached me and said, “I have repeatedly noticed you this past couple of days during breaks. Your grandmother just won’t leave me in peace, until I pass this on to you.”

The lady, who was a medium herself, said she’d sort of held back from giving me the message, because she could sense I would not be very excited to hear from this particular grandmother!

“She just wants me to tell you that she is very, very sorry for the hurt she caused you, and for the way she treated you when she was in this life,” she told me. “She knew no better, because that is how she’d been treated earlier on in her own life.”

I guess my Gran’s was another case of ‘the abused becoming the abuser.’ We either carry on the cycle of abuse, or we stop it. I thanked the medium, and told my Gran I forgave her. We are all worthy of forgiveness. Not just for their sake, but also for our own. I hope this helped my Gran move on with her spiritual journey on the Other Side.