The Past Can Prevent Your Future

Why am I stuck? Why am I not advancing? Why can’t I find love? Why is money never coming to me and always flowing out from me? These are questions I struggled with for a long time in my own life.

I delved deep into many aspects of life design, manifesting change, the Law of Attraction, deliberate creating, and personal growth and reinvention. I have watched, listened and been active in more workshops, online webinars and online learning in this genre than most will ever do in a lifetime. I have read the books and taken many notes. I have made the visions boards and spoken the affirmations. But no matter where I turned, I was always confronted with actual reality versus trying to ‘positive think and believe’ something else. How can we believe we are destined to be something different or better simply by speaking it…or visualizing it? The truth is, it isn’t that simple.

In my search for answers I have also watched others who have participated in the forums, seminars and workshops, and actually achieved something significant in their life. And it has been my observation that the people who have truly risen above their circumstances and achieved their dreams, are the ones that did the deeper inner work.

This means letting go of all the misconceptions that you can simply just speak or imagine something to cause it to be your new reality. Of course, constantly speaking negative things about yourself, does nothing but bring your energy to a lower level and build walls. However, when you look at why you speak or think this way about yourself, that is the true story of your life and where the serious self-work may be required. Everyone has their own path. Each person has choices in their life to make.

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Children are born with no enemies, no hatred, no judgment. They are simply looking for love and someone to care for them. As time goes, those that are fortunate enough to have loving parents and community support… they thrive. It is a different story for those who are constantly being ignored, neglected, disregarded, bullied, abused, molested, or told they are never going to amount to anything, or that they do matter.

Take yourself back, way back to the first moments of your life that you can remember. How were your treated by your parents, grandparents, siblings, friends, teachers and community? For many of us this is not an easy process. The sins of the past tend to overwhelming at times, and can break you down temporarily. However, if you go back to that starting point and move forward step-by-step, revisiting every negative life event and replacing it with the acceptance that you are perfectly perfect as you are, that you are good enough, that you are worthy of love, that you are smart enough to be something more, then life will start to shift for you!

It will only be baby steps, but there will be a shift. Every time you drop off a layer of your past pain, followed by a huge self hug, you have made a step forward.

If you suffer from abuses of the past, childhood or adulthood, a protective layer of fear develops. It is hard to trust anyone. When a relationship starts, you might become jealous, possessive, mistrusting, or simply continue to pick the wrong person. You cannot carry the past into your present. It will break it down every time.

Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is believing you’re worthy of the trip ~ Glenn Beck

Some people put on weight on to protect themselves. The protective layer of being fat so no one will ever hurt them again. Well, fat or skinny, look around you and you will see so many people in a loving relationship of all shapes and sizes.  It is not that difficult to simply know that you deserve to have happiness and love.

If you manage to do the work that is needed, then you will no longer panic that you don’t have that perfect love in your life. You will no longer feel like nothing goes your way. You will no longer be filled with fear that you will never have enough. It takes hard work. It does not happen overnight. However, eventually you will find your flow. What is inside of you is what determines your outside experiences.

Happiness comes from within you, never from another person.  Once you take the inner layers out and start to love yourself, all of your life will start to fall into place in an amazing way.