Allow The Universe Time To Work Its Magic

Every psychic advisor has probably heard some variation of the question, “Why did he leave and how can he be happy without me?” or “How come she doesn’t love me anymore?” Along with these questions also come all the emotional tortures it may contain.

Each time I hear it my heart breaks, because based on the reading I receive for them, I typically have to say something like, “You are lovable! You are loved! Why do you think it is something that you did? How do you know he didn’t leave simply because he had to, because he just couldn’t handle his version of what being committed means. It has nothing to do with you and he actually misses you like crazy. He is sorry for what he did, and how his actions hurt you.”

It seems so many people want to be living in tortured land! Why? But I digress. Now, all of this can be read in a few minutes easily, but it may take months for the person to see these truths come to pass. It can be hard to let go, especially if you perceive that your dreams are leaving along with that person.

Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself ~ Deborah Reber

We have to let go so that the Universe can work its magic. You have to let go, so that whatever is meant to come back will be able to. The person or situation cannot resolve itself as long as you keep holding onto it.

I was moved to write this because of an experience that a client of mine went through. I experienced it also, but from my perspective, as I walked through the experience with her. She was involved with someone, whom, while she loved him with all her heart, she could not make him ‘grow up’. No matter that he loved her with all his heart, he could not make himself become more mature any sooner than it was meant to happen.

I used to beg her to leave him be. His father had died without him ever really having that much time to know him, and his mother seemed unable to separate herself from her son. She refused to allow him to be a man, to make his own decisions. My client could do nothing about this. But she loved him and thought her love was strong enough to help him break the ties that bind. But she could not. He married another, even as he was protesting eternal love to her. He took the rug right from under her.

Of course, she was devastated and no matter how I tried to show her that he was being manipulated into the marriage and that he was actually very unhappy, she couldn’t see that. At least not at that moment in time. All she saw was her dreams being taken away from her, by him, because of his actions.

She also got very angry with me. We did not speak for several months, because there could be no resolution. She couldn’t see past her pain. We patched things up once she got past her anger, and I cheered her on as she kept moving on her journey to freedom.

We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better ~ C. JoyBell C.

It was six months to the day he left her that the phone rang. And yes, it was him. He was calling to say how sorry he was, how unhappy he was without her and how he wished things could be different and he could stop allowing his mother to control his life. And much to his surprise she said to him, “I forgive you.” Three simple words that six months prior she had not been able to say to herself, much less to him. She forgave herself for thinking her love was over. She loved herself enough to let go of him and stop punishing herself long enough to come back to life again, literally.

Will he want to come back to her? More than likely, because he senses her state of ‘wholeness’ and while he doesn’t realize it he’ll need it, somehow. Will she take him back? Not right now. Maybe not ever. She has evolved beyond him now and realizes that her dreams can still come true without sacrificing herself to his nightmare.

So, the next time you get a psychic reading, be it six minutes or sixty, realize that your reader is showing you what he or she sees for you. And that time as you know it to be is not an issue. Your dreams can only die if you let them. Sometimes, just because you are hurting right now, doesn’t mean you always will.

And sometimes, you just may get a great validation that you were right all along you just have to quit trying so hard. You need to let go and loosen your grip; let what is meant to be yours be yours without any work from you. Because, love is just love. And your dreams are your dreams, and no one can take them away from you, unless you choose to give them away.