The Value Of Anger

A client recently talked about her struggles with anger, and that no matter what she did she was unable to rid herself of her “anger issues.” She said that she was concerned, because she knew that her anger was inevitably attracting and manifesting further negativity into her life.

Spirit’s response to this is, “Anger is good.” Spirit has shown me that anger has value. Personally, I would never want to advise someone against the truth. And the truth is sometimes we are furious, fuming, enraged, explosively angry.

Anger is certainly a natural human reaction to events that we seem to counter our goals and desires. It is natural reaction, otherwise the experience of anger would not be a part of our experience of life.

That being said, how do we put anger back into our understanding of the manifestation principles? That’s a good question. Pain, which includes anger, is a beloved friend that is there to tell us something. Often times it indicates that we are out of alignment with Spirit.

Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean ~ Maya Angelou

We first must come to the premise that desires are innately good. They are Spirit-given, and they are there to be fulfilled! It is true that desires can be twisted, and when we attempt to control the situation and attempt to force satiation of intrinsic, Spirit-given desires it often can have undesired and damaging consequences. This is certainly a good topic for another article, but let’s just assume for one moment that all desires are God-given for the purpose of this article.

When we experience anxieties, fears, or anger, it is often pointing to the reality that we are out of alignment somewhere.  A common “pain causing” tendency are the stories we tell ourselves about the future. The biggest story that I have experienced in my own life is the one that starts with: “I will be happy when…”

We often create a story about the fulfillment of our desire, and then focus more on the story of the future than the present moment. The story may be true, and it may be false. However, when our happiness depends on the fulfillment of the story, we are no longer resonating with the present reality, and we are merely playing a waiting game.

Two reactions can come from story creating. We can attempt to control our situation into manifestation. Of course this often backfires. Or, we can fear that we may never see that desire fulfilled. Both realities are in opposition with the reality that these desires are Spirit-given, and that the “Spirit intention” is that these desires be fulfilled.

It is wise to direct your anger towards problems — not people; to focus your energies on answers — not excuses ~ William Arthur Ward

We are all in different stages of evolutionary development.  This is good, it is how the process of spiritual development works. By spiritual I do not mean religious exercise, but rather a deep awareness of two things. Firstly, that what is happening inside of us is manifesting in the world around us. This can be put into religious context by using the term faith.

We manifest our experience based on our faith  through our thoughts and emotions. In the book Beneficial Law of Attraction: The Manifestation Teachings, Hope Bradford channels the message from Kuan Yin saying, “Everyone creates realities based on their own personal beliefs. These beliefs are so powerful that they can create (expansive or entrapping) realities over and over.”

This is the idea of faith, a creative power that is within each of us that allows the manifestation process to occur, which is also echoed in ancient texts. Jesus said that with enough faith an individual could move a mountain. He was sharing with us that our internal reality is a creative process that brings forth experience.

The second reality of spiritual understanding is that we are connected to limitless resource. If we are creators and co-creators the second reality must be true as well, that we are plugged into a power source that allows us to manifest. This limitless resource that is referred to as God, the Divine, Source, the Universe, or the Holy Spirit, and is the power that has potential to move mountains.

Usually when people are sad, they don’t do anything. They just cry over their condition. But when they get angry, they bring about a change ~ Malcolm X

Now, going back to the experience of anger. Don’t view the anger as bad, because that is counterproductive to the process. The anger is not innately bad, nor innately good. It simply is. I am sure you have recognized in your own situation that if you try to resist the anger, it only increases or finds a way to express itself in other ways. This can often manifest itself through addictions, difficulties in relationships, and many other self-destructive patterns.

This is the outward manifestation of an inward reality.  The quandary here is not that the anger is bad, but that anger (and all pain experiences we go through) are persistent. They will not go away until the purpose is revealed.

So, when you experience anger, don’t move into a rejection phase. Move into an acceptance phase, and ask the anger what you need to do. This is often not a logical exercise. For instance, sometimes when I am feeling pain it is telling me to cry, or even scream at the top of my lungs. As I work with the pain, I find it normally carries a message with it.

The most consistent message that I receive is that the pain represents an area of life where I am out of alignment with the goodness of God. I am not believing that God will fulfill my underlining Spirit-given desires.

Sometimes the pain is from the past, and this pain is normally associated with my attachments that I have with my history. For instance, I had money problems in the past. When I experience money anxieties there is a dual experience that often takes place. I have had experiences with money in the past that are less than desirable. So, I have a history that I can use to prove that my desires related to my financial state will not be fulfilled, because I have yet to experience complete manifestation.

Anger is just anger. It isn’t good. It isn’t bad. It just is. What you do with it is what matters. It’s like anything else. You can use it to build or to destroy. You just have to make the choice ~ Jim Butcher

I thus have an attachment to my history that is not conducive with my innate desires. In essence I do not trust that my desires are good, because they are still unfulfilled. If I say that my innate desires about financial fulfillment are not good, because they have not yet been fulfilled, then I am denying the reality that they are Spirit-given. I am out of alignment, and I manifest or create through resistance rather than acceptance.

So, take these two considerations. The future story, and the attachment to the past. What is happening in each story?  Through my frustrations or anxieties I am creating through faith (inner reality) and my connection limitless resource (God).  Unless I align myself with the reality that there is enough resource to fulfill these desires, I will never find actual fulfillment.

If you view your anger as a message, and work through this anger, you will begin to see that your desires are innately good, and that they are meant to be fulfilled.