Healing From A Relationship Breakup

All breakups are painful. There really is no quick fix to heal a broken heart. But there are some things one can do to gradually move on and begin a new journey without your ex-partner.

The first thing to do is to accept the reality of the situation. It is not going to do any good to dwell on the past or try to work things out at this point. In this early stage of grieving, it is usually not a good idea to speak to your ex at all. It will simply prolong the pain.

At times you might be tempted to reach out to your ex, but listen to what your heart and soul is telling you. Trust your gut. It will never steer you wrong.

You may also want to avoid reminders of your ex and your relationship. No need to put any more stress or pressure on yourself than you have to. It is best to accept what is and move on.

The most important thing now is to put yourself first and be true to you. Now is the time to come to grips with your feelings. Don’t hold back if you want to cry and let it out.

We are always trying to look for answers as to why something happened. Many times, we blame ourselves, thinking that things may have been different if we would have done more. We put ourselves through so much unnecessary guilt sometimes. It is unfair and pointless to do that to ourselves and not the best path to healing. Seek forgiveness for your ex and yourself.

A healthy lifestyle is important in times of grief. Exercise is especially beneficial. It makes you feel more in control of yourself and increases ‘feel good’ hormones like dopamine that will reduce depression.

When you are ready, make the effort to get out there again. Take charge of your life.  Stay busy and occupy your mind as much as you can with work, school, hobbies. Go out with friends. Adopt a new spiritual practice or revive and old one. Staying active and involved is key and spirituality is important at this time.

Build a humble, flawed life from the rubble, and cherish that. There is nothing more glorious on the face of the earth than someone who refuses to give up, who refuses to give in to their most self-hating, discouraged, disillusioned self ~ Heather Havrilesky

Be patient with yourself. Give yourself enough time to get over the loss of your relationship, to get to a point where you are emotionally stronger. Do not be discouraged when you have a difficult day here and there.

There will be times when you feel that you are not making progress, but just be aware that a significant relationship is not something you just get over like that. It takes time, but time does heal all wounds for the most part.

Many things will change in your life and at times you may feel unsure of what you should do next. Just stay as positive as you can, and remember that when one door closes a window always opens.