How To Deal With Toxic People

At times most of us have to deal with toxic people. It seems these days they are popping up everywhere in some way, shape or form. We do our best to understand them. And often we make excuses for why we continue to tolerate them. Year after year.

Fact is, some folks just aren’t going to change. No matter how much patience we give them. We may make up excuses for why we continue to share and hold space for them. But it is in vain.

Sometimes it takes a wake-up call from a doctor who tells us we suffer from stress-related illness, such as high blood pressure or anxiety, to make us realize that dis-ease does in fact cause disease.

I have done readings for several women who have told me they have serious health issues and they believe it is caused from the stress they have to endure from co-workers, or the people they have to live with, or those whom they are married to.

I have given lots of helpful advice to my clients in these matters, but I decided to step it up a notch and spend a month connecting with spirit and asking for a good list of items I can share in this blog that could maybe help you too.

Toxic people adhere as concrete blocks to your ankles, then push you to swim in poisoned waters ~ John Mark Green

Toxic energy is not good for our health. So, here are some suggestion that you can try and would love to hear your feedback if you happen to try some of these.

Remember that when the psychic vampires are dropping their poison on you, with their negative comments and rude behavior, it has everything to do with them… and nothing to do with you. It’s important that you recognize this. They feel some sort of disconnect with themselves and are trying to bring you down to their level, so they don’t feel alone. Don’t let them. You can decide to not allow their negativity to disrupt your energy. Visualize a shield of protection around you. What they say bounces off of your shield and back to the sender.

Just decide to not overthink what they are doing or saying, as they are indirectly depleting you of your energy every time you allow them to set up space in your mind. Don’t spend time thinking about them and their negative ways. Pull out those weeds and don’t invite any new ones to grow, by simply spreading seeds of love and kindness in the place of where you were allowing thoughts of toxic energy to manifest.

Do not direct any attention whatsoever to energy thieves. That means simply not talking to, thinking about, or even looking at them. By paying attention to them, you are allowing your energy to connect with theirs, hence allowing others with the same shallow energy to connect with yours. You want to disconnect any energy cords with the toxic person. Our energy goes out where our attention flows. Direct your attention, thoughts and time onto those who are vibrating at a higher frequency of love, kindness and compassion.

If you find you have to be around toxic folks, don’t change who you are. If you truly feel the need to say something, then do it, but do it respectfully and with tact. If you can’t, then simply let them know you wish them well, but in your heart you can visualize them far away from you. This way there is not going to be any negative feelings.

Pay no attention to toxic words. What people say is often a reflection of themselves, not you ~ Christian Baloga

I’ve said it many times: some of the best people I know are cool, down-to-earth, real people. They aren’t fake. They don’t try to be something or someone they are not. Those are the folks I truly ‘vibe’ with. They aren’t afraid to say how they feel, but they can also take the negative feedback and turn around and learn from it. I’ve been told things I didn’t want to hear when I was being negative and I thanked the person, because they helped to make me a better listener, friend and confidant.

Toxic people don’t know how to take helpful criticism. They take it as an insult and make drama and chaos out of it, as if they are the victim and it’s all about them. They don’t want to change, they don’t want to be a better person.

Resist the urge to judge. Sometimes we are confronted with people who are just on a completely different page. That is okay. Let it go. Again don’t overthink it, just let it be. Move on and find your tribe. Judging just isn’t good for our soul and spiritual growth.

Find support and comfort in meditation and prayer. Pray for your protection from toxic people. Pray for their enlightenment and soul growth, to stop bringing negativity to others and to themselves. It is a great thing to create healthy boundaries, but its also important to wish them well – as long as it is far away from us, while they continue their soul journey. Once they have done the work, you may welcome them back into your life. However in the meantime send them positive energy by praying, or directing healing energy to them.

Learn to say no, and understand that you don’t have to answer the phone when they call. You can gradually cut that cord. If your a people-pleaser you will need to change your ways, as it will drain you to the point where your health will absolutely suffer… if it hasn’t already.

Let go of negative people. They only show up to share complaints, problems, disastrous stories, fear, and judgment on others. If somebody is looking for a bin to throw all their trash into, make sure it’s not in your mind ~ Dalai Lama

Tourmaline is a wonderful healing crystal that can help absorb negative energy when you absolutely have to share space with negative people. Epsom salt baths at the end of the day, after spending time around negative people, is also a great way to clear your aura. Soak for 20 minutes in a few cups of it. Good stuff!

Aromatherapy is another useful tool. Lavender is an amazing calming essential oil. I know someone who is super-toxic and they the smell of Lavender. When I have to be around this person, I lather it on! I put a few drops on my hand with jojoba oil, and give myself a little body massage so I smell wonderful. It’s not only calming for me, but it helps me to divert this person, and seems to deflect toxic folks in general.

So, here’s to your health and well-being free from toxic energy. Be careful who you allow in your environment and who your companions are, as it’s vital to your emotional physical, spiritual and mental well being!