Are You A Magnet For Drama And Chaos?

One of my clients recently relocated to a quieter area, after many years of living a city life. Naturally, she was anticipating a more tranquil existence in her new rural setting, as well as in her new job in a ‘not-so-corporate’ environment. But her new lifestyle did not live up to her expectations. Her geographical change still brought with it a fair amount of chaos.

“What is it with me?” she asked me. “I am like a magnet for drama, and I want the chaos to stop!” Although I kept my focus on doing a reading for her with psychic tools, this was quite a challenging question or me personally, because I had, in fact, also been attracting my own share of drama these past few years.

From my own experience, I know that a certain amount of drama can feel temporarily invigorating, as it prompts the body to produce an adrenaline rush. It can produce a pleasant surge of energy. But it can eventually become particularly debilitating when we are in continuous adrenal overdrive. It’s not an advisable state to be in constantly. After all, we are spiritual beings in a body, and spiritual teachings advise a balance of work, sleep, rest and play!

I need drama in my life to keep making music ~ Eminem

Through my work, I often hear clients saying that they feel like they are ‘magnets for calamity.’ A common cry is when people ask, “Am I cursed,” or “Why is the universe doing this to me when I have been a good person.” They tend to see their chaotic circumstances as some form of karmic punishment and they often feel victimized.

What I have learned is that we tend to attract unstable individuals and sometimes catastrophic situations into our lives and, whilst we are in this holding pattern, we can find ourselves bouncing from one crazy person or situation to the next! I learned too that we are doing this through our own deeper thought patterns, attitudes and, ultimately, through the choices we make. And the initial thrill of such pandemonium eventually depletes our energy and irks our souls.

I recall many years ago meeting a young woman who was very active in helping the homeless street children in Johannesburg, South Africa. Her work entailed spending time in a socially deprived and often dangerous area. I told her how highly I thought of her work and dedication to her cause in helping these kids. She said, “Yes, I do what I can to help them and to offer them an alternative way to live, but they inevitably return to the streets, because it’s what they know.” According to her experience they were so used to living in their ‘dramatic’ reality, that when confronted with the prospect of change in the form of peace and progress, they felt uncomfortable.

Then, of course there are other individuals who tend to create drama in order to get attention or affection. Intense feeling can be evoked during times of conflict and uncertainty, and an addiction to drama often is often created this way. I have observed this often when doing readings for clients experiencing upsetting situations with family members.

Never let somebody’s drama determine the outcome of your day ~ Terry Mark

I once read that to clearly see, and to truly wish to be free of our drama, is to be liberated from it. The article suggested that in understanding where the subconscious need for drama originates can be addressed particularly well by journaling. By repeatedly writing down our feelings regarding any confusion, hurt or conflict we’ve been through, can bring us great clarity after confronting our emotional response to drama, and the purpose or lesson it has brought into our life. We can then choose not to take part in dramatic situations in general, nor to be around dramatic individuals. We can then make space for tranquility and calmness.

When we are ready to accept a serene and joyful life, we will attract that kind of experience. Should the odd chaotic incident crop up, we can then navigate it with an almost business-like manner. We can simply view it as a little ‘high-jump’ challenge that we are fit enough to jump over with ease.

We all have had an odd glimpse of ‘that peace which passeth all understanding’, and we do have it in our power to make this a more regular feeling.