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Healthy Boundaries – A Message From My Guides

Click the photo to get a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comIt is okay to say no. As a matter of fact, it is imperative to learn to say no, and stick with it. We observe that many of you try to be all things to all people. You run yourselves ragged, physically and emotionally, trying to please other people.

You put others ahead of yourselves and then become frustrated and angry when you have no time left for your own personal lives. This is exhausting, stressful and becomes completely unrealistic over time.

The challenge in setting healthy personal boundaries often arises when it becomes difficult to prioritize your own needs and desires against the expectations of others. Since when do these people rule your roost? Since when are their expectations more valid or important than your own peace of mind, ideas or schedules? Why do you give them such power over your dreams, goals, ambitions and life?

Setting boundaries is a way of caring for myself. It doesn’t make me mean, selfish, or uncaring (just) because I don’t do things your way. I care about me, too ~ Christine Morgan

Sadly, there are many selfish people in the world who seem to feel that their own agendas take priority over the plans of others. They insert themselves where they are not invited, needed or wanted. They use guilt trips to force others to waste valuable time on their ongoing personal dramas.

On the other hand, there are people who enable this thoughtless behavior, because they continue to play the victim. They drown in the erratic personal demands of others, complain wholeheartedly about their torment and yet never stand up to these bullies who inflict such pain. They feel that it is more important to be liked than to be respected, and yet they will be the first to respect the personal boundaries of others when asked or directed. Don’t be one of those people. It is time to put yourself first.

You might need persistence to undo your current routine and re-train family, friends, neighbors and co-workers to respect your time and space. However, if you are consistent, you will gradually prevail. Others will soon come to understand that you will no longer drop everything to serve their personal needs. They will learn that you won’t reward their bad behavior by allowing them to run roughshod over your precious personal time. Their tricks will no longer work because you will not respond in your usual complacent manner.

This is not to say that there is no need to compromise. Parents sacrifice for their children’s future. They often work second jobs or go without extras, in order to put their children through school or give them special experiences. Friends and neighbors step up to help others in time of sorrow or need. Strangers volunteer their precious time to help those less fortunate. Work colleagues pitch in to help the team. These examples, however, are borne of love, respect and generosity. They occur as a result of a strong desire to make a difference when someone needs support.

Healthy boundaries, however, need to be put in place to bring balance into your personal life and to prevent things from going awry. You cannot run at top speed without taking time for yourself along the way.

Compassionate people ask for what they need. They say no when they need to, and when they say yes, they mean it. They’re compassionate because their boundaries keep them out of resentment ~ Brené Brown

Be kind. Be thoughtful. Be calm. Be reasonable. Be consistent.

Reduce your communication with negative or abusive people who drain your energy and sap your strength. Find less time for disrespectful people who assume you have nothing better to do than wallow in their personal dramas with them.

Surround yourself with fun-loving, like-minded people who appreciate your spirit. Become closer to people with whom you have mutual respect, gratitude and love. Enjoy the little things that make up a full, robust life. Laugh more. Sing more. Be kind to yourself and respectful of others.

Above all, don’t be afraid to say ‘No’ when it comes to setting personal healthy boundaries. It is imperative to raise the bar when it comes to taking care of yourself. Only then will you be able to take care of others.

About The Author: Monica

"What you think about, you bring about; what you believe, you become." This is Monica's philosophy, derived from her twenty-five years of experience as a Clairvoyant, Light Worker and Medium, living in Ontario, Canada. Monica has been a guest speaker at various Spiritualist churches, conveying Spirit greetings and messages from loved ones during Sunday services, All Mediums Nights, Healing Services, Meditation Services and special fundraising events. She's been an advisor to several international business leaders and connects with all of her clients on a level of love light and empathy. She delivers messages containing ideal outcomes and positive solutions with the help of her guides. If you'd like Monica to help shape your destiny, you can find her at

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