There Is Only One Path To True Love

There is only one way to experience love, joy, and peace and that is in the now. Too often we have most of our mental energy focused on our future happiness. These thoughts conjure up ideas and imaginings about some future reality we are yet to experience, believing that a certain future event, experience or outcome will finally ‘make us happy.’

There is a real problem with this line of thinking, because there is actually no way to ‘arrive’ at a future happiness. Even if specific ‘happy events’ do occur someday in our future, the happiness derived from these events will always be short lived. It will be a temporary excitement or euphoria, not lasting happiness.

The truth is we always carry our consciousness with us everywhere we go in life and the state of our everyday consciousness is our only sustained experience than will be able to count on in a future reality.

Many spiritual wisdom traditions talk about the past and the future as being an illusion, because the only moment that is real is the present moment. All the love, joy, and peace that anyone can possibly experience in their lifetime all happens in the current moment.

The never-ending search for ‘somewhere out there’ happiness is also fruitless because the experience of happiness can only happen within and in the here and now, and not somewhere out there. Love, joy and happiness are internal experiences.

There is no external place out there in the Universe where you can find a secret fountain of love, joy or happiness. You will not be able to seek it out and fill up a bucket with these feelings, because the actual fountain is within.

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude ~ Denis Waitley

Love, joy, happiness, inner peace, personal fulfilment, and a sense of purpose are all intrinsic realities that can only be accessed in the present moment. Is it possible that you may have many future experiences that will enhance or promote these feelings? Absolutely. But only if the foundation for these feelings already exist within.

I am a psychic reader, so the future is something that I talk about a lot in my work. But I also advise my clients that we should not and cannot live in a future moment.

When we talk about the future, we are looking at the trajectory of our life experiences based on current choices we are making in life. Yet, the only way to experience love, joy, happiness, and so on, is to experience it in the now.

I had a mentor who said to me, “If you think something is missing in your life, maybe it’s you.” This has stuck with me because it is the truth. We are usually the person we have been looking for.

There is often the false belief to think that we need another person or object to love in order to experience love. However, if we are not already in the flow of self-love, before we establish a relationship with another, then the relationship will not be able to meet our love needs.

Our relationship with ourselves is far more important than finding the ‘soulmate’ or ‘the one.’ This is not to diminish the idea of finding our special beloved, but to enhance it.

If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself ~ Barbara De Angelis

Living in the moment is to experience the infinite flow of love, joy, happiness and peace that already exists within and then to allow this present reality to impact all the other aspects of our life, including our relationships. Whether it is with a clerk at a gas station, or a long-term lover. There is only one love. Yes, this love has many different expressions, but there is just the One Love.

The One Love always begins with loving and accepting the self. We cannot really receive love from another at a greater capacity than we are willing to love ourselves.

I cannot tell you how many people I have read for over the years that have sabotaged their relationships simply because of how they responded to the words, “I love you.” A person that does not fully love and accept themselves often react to this phrase with, “Do you really love me?” or “How can you possibly love me?”

The reason they react this way is because they don’t believe their partner is telling them the truth. They do not see themselves as being lovable. This lack of trust often creates instability and insecurity in the relationship and eventually becomes a destructive pattern of judgment, jealousy, fear, and resentment.

Love can only be experienced now, and your relationship status has absolutely nothing to do with it. If you want others to see you as beautiful, recognize your own beauty. If you want others to see you as lovable, love yourself completely. If you want others to accept you unconditionally, be sure to stop judging yourself, and release the past and forgive everyone, including yourself.

There is only one path to true, everlasting love…and the door to that heart opens inward.