Have Your Guides Led You Astray?

“My guides must hate me! They only lead me to things that cause me pain,” one of my clients recently complained. It is also not the first time I have heard something like this.

But how can this be? If our angels, guides and ancestors are here to help us, why do they lead us to things that cause us pain, heartache, or grief? Is spirit perhaps not actually guiding us, but hurting us instead? And if that is the case, what are we to do about it?

In my years of working as a professional psychic and energy healer, as well as my personal life experiences, I have come to the following conclusion on this matter. Our guides have only one mission: to love and support us unconditionally. Any deviation from our highest good is never due to the guidance of spirit, but instead the result of one or more of the following:

Ego Interference

Often, when we believe we are ‘following our guides,’ we are actually following a wounded part of our ego that continues to create a reality of pain – because that is all that we know. Your guides will never encourage you to do anything that causes you, or another person harm. Your spirit guardians will never make you feel belittled, intimidated or frightened.

Now, it is important to note they may steer you towards life choices and experiences that may make you feel somewhat uncomfortable or challenged, because it is outside of your comfort zone and they are wanting you to grow and expand. But there is a difference between being gently nudged towards personal growth and soul expansion, and simply being frightened or emotionally crushed

Lack Of Listening

The fundamental question with spirit guidance is whether are you truly listening? Sometimes we are in so much anger or pain that our guides are actually communicating with us, and guiding us, in vain, because we are unable to hear it clearly.

Explore ways to turn off the destructive self-talk and emotional intensity, and work on tapping into your inner guidance and listening to your inner voice.

For example, ask your angels, guides or ancestors to work with you in the dream state. Once the conscious mind that is hurting so much is asleep, it is much easier for our guides to come in and do their work.

We are blessed with guidance and it is within our power to find ways to both express and listen to this wisdom. The choice is ours ~ Susan Barbara Apollon

Divine Intervention

Furthermore, what we sometimes perceive as rejection, disapproval or punishment from our guides, is actually a form of guidance. It could be that that a relationship or circumstance in our life was not in our highest good, despite the fact that we thought it was, and our guides are shielding us through divine intervention from a potentially damaging, destructive situation or from additional heartache.

Soul Purpose

Sometimes we may encounter a painful experience or situation because it is part of our soul contract. We all have karma to resolve with other souls. We may also have a soul purpose agreement to work through the energy of a painful experience for the highest good of all, and thus clearing it from the collective consciousness.

In these cases, it is most important for you to find your own healing first and then teach the lesson to others who may be in the same situation, in order to ‘pay it forward,’ bless the collective, and fulfill your soul purpose.

Spirituality can release blocks, lead you to ideas, and make your life artful. Sometimes when we pray for guidance, we’re guided in unexpected directions. We may want a lofty answer and we get the intuition to clean our bedroom. It can seem so humble and picky and that you don’t necessarily think of it as spiritual guidance ~ Julia Cameron

Remember, the path of this life is long and winding. While we may want Mr. Right right now, for example, there may be other soul lessons we need to complete first, in order for our future relationship to be lasting and sustainable.

In our current situation, we only see a small portion of the larger map of our life journey. Staying open to each person, opportunity and experience that comes along, and seeing what we can learn, grow and give, allows us to cultivate an attitude of acceptance and gratitude for each moment of life, and each piece of spirit guidance.

This step alone will open up an expanded reality and new relationship with your guides. You will be able to see life from their perspective, one that blesses each moment, while seeing each experience and each individual as Divine and Perfect.