Release Your Attachment To Attract ‘Zen Love’

I have talked to so many people over the years who desperately want someone special to come into their lives, but it never seems to happen for them. They wonder why they can’t connect with anyone, why they never seem to find true and lasting love.

When I do readings for them, Spirit often reveals that the root of the problem is that they either want it too much, or they turn themselves and the other person they are trying to attract into “polar magnets,” pushing each other away instead of being attracted to each other.

In order to attract what you want into your life, you have to let go of any attachment to the outcome, stay clear of any negative emotions, self-sabotage, and limiting beliefs, and essentially allow it to come to you without any obsession or force. I call this attracting “Zen love.

Zen love is finding someone when you are not really looking. It’s when you want it, but you don’t want it so desperately that it just doesn’t happen. I equate it to thinking about someone and then letting go of the thought. It is usually when you let go that they suddenly call you on the phone.

You put out the intention to meet someone special and then you let it go. That is being “in Zen. Not forcing it. Going on with your life and staying positive and just having that inner knowing that everything is going to be okay. That inner knowing without any added force allows good things to come to you.

Meanwhile, if you really want someone special to come into your life, instead of constantly dwelling on it or stressing about it, be proactive and put that wasted energy to better use. Get out more, live wholeheartedly, go places and do things.

Non-attachment is not the elimination of desire. It is the spaciousness to allow any quality of mind, any thought or feeling, to arise without closing around it, without eliminating or grasping or pushing away ~ Sharon Salzberg

Go to the library, the gym or a sporting event, join a club or organization, or attend more social gatherings, but not with the intention of finding love. Just be happy that you know you’re worthy of love and that you’re open to the universe bringing it to you when the time is right.

The Law Of Detachment

Although the idea of “Zen Love” is my own invention I use in my psychic work, the concept is not new. You also don’t have to take only my word for it. Various spiirtual, esoteric and occult traditions and teachings emphasize the importance of “letting go,” or releasing attachment to something you want to attract or manifest in your life.

For example, several prominent spiritual traditions teach what is known as the Law of Detachment, including Buddhism, Hinduism, Taoism, Sufism, Jainism and Christian Mysticism. Detachment or non-attachment is the notion that excessive attachment or clinging to desires creates resistance and tension, hindering the manifestation process. By letting go and detaching ourselves from specific outcomes, we allow the universal flow of energy and manifestation to occur more freely and organically, in accordance with Divine Will.

Intense attachment to certain desires often comes from the ego’s need for control and security. Many esoteric traditions advocate that true spiritual growth and manifestation come from relinquishing the ego’s impulse to manipulate outcomes. Releasing attachment helps us loosen the grip of the ego and align more deeply with higher consciousness and universal forces.

Attachments and desires create energetic resistance within us that blocks the natural flow of abundance and manifestation. Letting go helps dissolve this resistance, allowing our energy to align more authentically with our deeper desires.

Seek not that the things which happen should happen as you wish; but wish the things which happen to be as they are, and you will have a tranquil flow of life ~ Epictetus

The Power Of Letting Go

Releasing attachment allows us to be more receptive and open to the magical workings of the universe. It allows us to be in a state of allowing and receptivity, fostering trust in the divine order of existence and remaining open to unexpected opportunities and synchronicities.

This process involves surrendering the will of our ego to a higher wisdom or divine intelligence. Releasing attachment involves recognizing that a greater plan or purpose may be unfolding beyond our human perspective. This surrender leads to greater peace, trust, and alignment with the universal flow, ultimately serving our highest good.

In summary, the emphasis on letting go in esoteric and occult traditions is aimed at cultivating a state of inner freedom, trust, and alignment with higher consciousness. It’s not about giving up desires or goals, but rather about releasing the grip of attachment and allowing the process of manifestation to unfold naturally and harmoniously.

Just put your desire for love out there, like putting a fishing line in the water and then forgetting it’s there. Enjoy life and allow all that is good to come into your life. Saturate yourself with the greatest amount of bliss you can imagine by not forcing it. You will find that living in Zen will and can work for you in love and in all areas of your life.