Are You Married To A Cheater?

Are you married to a man who you think might be a cheater? It is more common than one might think. The bulk of my calls are about just this question: is he cheating?

Usually, if a client is asking this question, they already know the answer. They simply need either confirmation, or clarification.  Their intuition is telling them something is going on. Often there are also many clues.

However, many callers still do not want to believe it is true, when I see that their partner is indeed being unfaithful to them. Some continue to ignore the signs and live in denial it until everything eventually comes to a head and they finally have to face it.

What to do if you think your husband is cheating? Question him by being open, direct and honest. Get the answers you need.tru

If he is not forthcoming, find other ways to uncover the truth and piece things together. Get a psychic reading. Hire a private detective. Check his credit card statements and chat messages. You have a right to know the truth

If you find out that he has been cheating, then seek counselling first, before making any major decisions or drastic changes. First find out exactly what kind of situation you are in and if and how it can be fixed, or not.

Getting to the core and extent of the problem in a sensible, calm manner is usually the best first step. Don’t allow his bad choices to turn your entire life upside down.

I remember a client who gave everything to her marriage, while her husband was cheating.  She was suspicious, but never followed her gut.  It all came crashing down when he arrived home one day and dropped the bomb that the other woman he was having an affair with was now pregnant with his child. This was an unbearable shock, as my client was unable to have children.

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