Overcoming Feeling Rejected

When a customer asks for a reading about future love prospects, they will often ask how they could possibly meet this person. “How can this possibly happen”, they ask, when they really don’t go anywhere, not to mention that their internet dating attempts have been futile.

I don’t feel that there are coincidences in the way in which people meet. Our frequencies attract to us the ‘other’ who will bring us our next life lesson. At least this is my overall feeling.

This force of nature holds a magnetism unlike any other feeling, and it can throw any logical perception of another person (who is the attention of our desires) right out of the window. It’s a real pity how a toxic relationship can divert someone off course from their true spiritual purpose, which, for many of us is, to find the love of self.

Letting go has never been easy, but holding on can be as difficult. Yet strength is measured not by holding on, but by letting go ~ Len Santos

Our goal or mission is to achieve this love of self, with or without a partner. We don’t need to have an ‘other half’ to feel complete. Many of us have a real longing for love, both to give and to receive, and we long for the dreamy distraction of being loved and adored.

We often think we can change the other person, even if they don’t treat us well, or if they are ‘flaky’ in making regular calls, texting, or in making dates with us. We make excuses for them. If and when we do break up with that person in question, we are left with energy attachments, often, of the most negative and painful kind. It is often the case, that we want them to suffer and with our thoughts, actually do wish them harm, as a sort of payback. This, in itself can backfire and we end up getting even more bitter, as opposed to getting better.

I do believe that we attract certain individuals into our lives for the lessons they bring, but often the cycle or pattern of behavior we attract brings us endless pain, causing our self-esteem to take a nose dive. I personally do believe in soulmate attractions, but often they can be quite toxic if neither of us has learned our spiritual lessons this lifetime. We tend to continue to be the abused, or to become the abuser.

If you are sick and tired of negative cycles of disappointment and heartache, don’t put your heart on your sleeve until you really get to know someone, and what makes them tick. We cannot make someone into something, or someone they could never be. Most of us have had the misconception that we could. However, there is always a certain amount of growth in any relationship.

So, if nothing else, we might look inside of ourselves as to why we allowed this relationship to develop in the first place. Then, ask ourselves if we learned anything about ourselves from it. Was our self-esteem such that we were just ‘settling’ to have a partner whom we thought we could groom into our ideal?

Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself ~ Deborah Reber

Forgive yourself, forgive them and quietly thank them for the lesson. You have ‘been there, done that and got the T-shirt.’ Now it’s time to burn that old T-shirt, so you are ready to make better choices in the near future.

Helping a client deal with rejection is one of the hardest aspects of a reading a psychic counselor encounters. Why did he dump me, when everything was so wonderful to begin with? What does her new love interest have that I do not? These are some of the questions a perplexed psychic reading caller often asks.

If you are struggling to recover from a very bad relationship, it really is time to think in brand new ways. Changes of a positive kind are called for. It might just be time for love to change, in that two people have outgrown one another in a marriage. We can grow in different directions and that’s okay, more so if either party realizes that this is what has happened, as opposed to clinging on to the romantic notion of ‘happily ever after’, and feeling like a rejected failure.

You may not feel you got the closure or explanation due to you. The ex might just feel that the relationship has run its course, and not be able to give a detailed explanation, for example when he or she feels a strong calling to experience another path in life.

The most negative side of a person can emerge when you feel rejected, and you take to being in denial, blaming, being angry and bitter and even take to stalking. A hurt individual often radiates negative energy to an ex, as he or she obsesses over where they might be, or who they might be with. Doing this, lowers our own energy frequencies.

If you are ready to break free, you can. Both strong emotional attachment and sexual contact can often create an energetic web and energy transference from the person you were with. Unfortunately, this can often be negative energy, but you can shift this and begin to take your power back to become the individual that you were once when you were at your strongest.

Visualization can play a key role in healing. Envision how fulfilled you desire to be, standing strong on your own.
Your energy flows where your thoughts go, so it is important not to strengthen ties with an ex by constantly thinking of them, things you did together and celebratory occasions, like birthdays etc.

Clear your space of any reminders, including gifts, photos, greeting cards, or other reminders. Work on cutting any ties that bind you. Clear your space of that other person’s energy residue, as well as your own energy field by taking regular salt baths or power showers. There are some great blog posts here on PsychicBloggers.com on how to sever those ties which hold us prisoner, and on how to clear your own space and energy field.
Morning and evening, wear your psychic protection.