Perfect Love Is For Better Or Worse

For those of us who are spiritually aware and seeking to live consciously, the experience of a mystical romance can be both healing and enlightening. But the journey of soulmate love is not always a matter of moonlight and roses.

What is perfect love? Does it even exist? How can two people make their love last? Do we belong together? How can we be soulmates if we argue all the time? How is this a sacred union if he is being such a jerk?

These are some of the questions I sometimes get asked in relationship readings.

The guidance from spirit is always the same. The best marriages and committed relationships all have their ups and downs. Perfect love is loving your partner when things aren’t perfect. It’s about owning your differences and working through them as a team.

Perfect love isn’t about a flawless journey but about embracing the imperfections with grace. Meaningful relationships are an intricate dance, an alchemical symphony of highs and lows, joy and challenges. Perfect love that lasts will always have its ups and downs, like an exciting roller coaster ride.

In my experience, people who stay married for a very long time make their relationships last by being flexible and going with the ebb and flow. Successful partnerships ride this cosmic wave we call life. And when those big waves roll in during more challenging times, they just ride it out because there is always smoother sailing ahead. Hard times never last.

The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along ~ Rumi

Imperfections & Challenges

Perfect love is also not about finding someone who matches an idealized image of perfection. It’s about loving and accepting your partner exactly as they are, flaws and all. It’s about recognizing that both of you are on a unique spiritual journey, and your paths have intertwined for a reason.

In any committed relationship, it’s inevitable to have times of tension and discord. These differences, however, do not signify failure or incompatibility but rather opportunities for growth and deeper connection. When we perceive our relationships through the lens of spiritual awareness and see each other through the eyes of God, we recognize that these challenges are not obstacles but catalysts for growth, healing, and transformation.

The lows in a relationship, though often uncomfortable, are where the real growth happens. It’s during these times that we learn the most about ourselves and our partners. By facing these challenges with an open heart and mind, we can transform them into opportunities for deeper understanding and compassion.

I remember a lady I did a reading for a while ago who has been married for over three decades. I asked her what she thought made their relationship last so long, and she said it was simply sticking it out through the good times and the bad times. For better or for worse. But, she then added that she would never put up with a cheater or an abuser!

This is obviously a good rule of thumb for anyone in a relationship. If he raises his hand to you or she cheats on you, they do not love you the way they should. These types of things should be a definite deal-breaker. Everything else, I believe, can be worked out, often by taking some time apart and giving each other space before getting back together. That is how love lasts!

Just like we appreciate the moments of joy and harmony in a relationship, we must embrace the difficulties. The difficulties in a relationship are also gifts to be cherished. They remind us of the deeper beauty and significance of our connection and the love that binds us. Honoring these moments reinforces our bond and sets a foundation for further growth and a deeper level of intimacy.

Through my love for you, I want to express my love for the whole cosmos, the whole of humanity, and all beings…This is the real message of love ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

Communication & Support

Honest and open communication is the cornerstone of any strong relationship. Sharing your feelings, fears, and hopes with your partner fosters intimacy and trust. Strive to see the situation from your partner’s perspective. This practice not only helps in resolving conflicts but also strengthens the emotional bond between you.

Working through differences can take many forms. It can be as simple as just leaving the room or spending some time apart from each other in some way. Space and time heal all, especially for those who live together or are married. There’s a lot of truth in the popular Chicago ballad, Hard to Say I’m Sorry, because everyone needs “a little time away from each other.”

True love sees beyond the surface. It acknowledges and embraces the imperfections, understanding that they are part of what makes each person unique. In the realm of esotericism and mysticism, we learn that our flaws and challenges are often reflections of deeper spiritual lessons.

Our partners often mirror aspects of ourselves that need healing. By addressing these reflections with love and compassion, we facilitate mutual growth. Embrace your partner’s quirks and idiosyncrasies. This unconditional acceptance fosters a safe and nurturing environment where both partners can thrive.

A relationship thrives when both partners are committed to working through challenges together. This teamwork requires patience, understanding, and a shared vision for the future. Having common goals and dreams helps in navigating the tough times. Whether it’s building a home, starting a family, or embarking on a spiritual journey, these shared aspirations provide a sense of purpose and direction.

Be each other’s biggest cheerleader. Support your partner’s endeavors and celebrate their successes. This mutual encouragement strengthens the partnership and fosters a deep sense of unity.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls ~ Khalil Gibran

Safety & Well-Being

It is crucial, however, to recognize that working through the ebbs and flows does not mean you should ever tolerate abuse or violence in any relationship. True love and spiritual connections are never meant to be abusive or destructive. There is a significant difference between the normal growth challenges that every relationship faces and a relationship that is dysfunctional, toxic, or even dangerous to your safety.

Abuse, whether emotional, physical, psychological, or spiritual, is never acceptable and should never be justified as a part of spiritual or personal growth. It’s important to discern these differences and take appropriate action to protect yourself.

If you find yourself in a relationship that is abusive or toxic, it is essential to prioritize your safety and well-being. Seek support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals who can offer guidance and assistance. There are many resources available, including hotlines and shelters, that provide help to those in abusive situations. Additionally, engaging with a therapist or counselor who specializes in relationship dynamics can offer valuable insights and strategies for navigating these challenges.

Remember, true spiritual and emotional growth happens in environments of mutual respect, love, and safety. Your well-being is paramount, and it is vital to take the necessary steps to ensure you are in a healthy and nurturing spiritual relationship.

Psychic Advice & Guidance

A psychic reading can provide valuable insights into the dynamics of your relationship. Relationship readings can offer valuable guidance on navigating challenges and understanding the deeper spiritual connections between you and your partner. They can highlight areas that need attention and offer guidance on how to address them.

In the end, the beauty of a relationship lies in its imperfections. It’s in the messy, challenging moments that we find the true essence of divine love. By embracing these imperfections and working through them together, we create a love that is deep, resilient, and profoundly meaningful.

For those of us who walk the path of conscious living and spiritual awareness, our relationships are sacred journeys of mutual growth and enlightenment. By embracing the ups and downs, loving through imperfections, and working as a team, we cultivate a perfect love in an imperfect world. Let this journey be a testament to the power of love, connection, and spiritual growth.