Attracting Your Vibrational Match Online

Does online dating actually work for people wanting to meet their soulmate? This is a question I have been asked many times in readings. Well, if I simply consider the many success stories I know of among my clients over the years, I can confidently confirm that it certainly does work. I know personally of a few lovely matches made online and they are still going strong.

However, from personal experience I can also add that I have learned the hard way that it is important to set up a proper profile and use the dating site or app wisely. The information you put on your profile is so important. You want to do your best to attract a ´vibrational match.’

My own online dating journey was initiated by a friend who was very familiar with online dating. In fact, she had actually met her soulmate online. Sadly, he passed away from an unexpected illness. A year later she was going online once more, ad she invited me along for the adventure. She encouraged me (or perhaps even dared me) to give it a go!

So, late one night, I created a profile on a well-known dating app, browsed a few profiles, and went to bed. The next morning, I had several messages in my inbox from men who wanted to connect. Since I was so new to this, I freaked out and called my friend in a flap panic!

With a school-teacher tone of voice, she patiently asked me ‘which way I had swiped’ whilst looking at profiles.

“I am not sure,” was my naïve response.

There was a pause on her end…and then raucous laughter, because apparently, I had inadvertently been telling just about every guy in my area that I ´liked´ them by swiping right. I quickly unsubscribed. No thanks, that was enough for my first try.

Internet dating is the fastest, most efficient way to gather a pool of qualified candidates. It could take you a lifetime to do the investigation that the computer comes up within seconds ~ Judsen Culbreth

Later, I had two further attempts on other apps, also encouraged by my friend. At least, she said, we are doing something to get some conversations going. I am sure she was right. But once again, I wasn´t paying much attention when filling in the forms on the second and third dating app attempts.

The second time, I mistakenly indicated that I was interested in both men and women, which created a lot of confusion, both for me and the well-intentioned women who started reaching out to me. Again, I have no idea how I checked the wrong box. I felt bad about it.

I eventually realized that I needed to put more practical effort and focus into the process, instead of leaving most of it up to the divine. There is also no point in asking for something in a way that makes little sense. The universe can only meet us halfway and we have to take the initial steps with sufficient confidence, clarity and personal responsibility. The magic always begins with us.

On the downside, I have customers and friends who’ve been taken for a ride emotionally and some financially. There will be the opportunists who aren’t genuine in what they present on their profile. So, like everything else, discretion and intuition will serve you best if you choose this dating route. In a nutshell, in setting you intention to attract a life partner of a vibrational match, as well as being careful, I do believe lovely matches can be made online.