Slow And Steady Is The Best Path To Lasting Love

In today’s superficial world of online dating, hookup apps and sexual promiscuity, it’s has become a daunting challenge to find a suitable partner who is genuinely ready for long-term commitment and relationship monogamy.

Also, in the dating scene, people typically wear masks, especially during the initial introduction. Everyone wants to give a good first impression and rarely want to discuss their truth, or past traumas. Dates also like to exaggerate or omit information, to make themselves sound more important or successful than they really are.

A few weeks into a new relationship is usually when the cracks start to show and the truth begins to float to the surface. For example, he comes from a good family and appears to be successful on paper, but he is emotionally fragile, or verbally abusive and narcissistic in relationships. Or, he claims he is totally single when you first meet him, but there’s actually someone else in his life and they’re not breaking that up anytime soon, because they have money invested together or are married.

We too often get so caught up in the fuzzy feeling and fantasy of a person possibly being ‘the one,’ that we forget to question if they are in alignment with what we truly need to add value to our life. Always listen to what a date is telling you, without sugar-coating it for yourself.

Dating should be less about matching outward circumstances than meeting your inner necessity ~ Mark Amend

Don’t be naïve to think that your presence in their life will suddenly change them. You will most likely lose yourself in the delusion, as well as the drama that will follow. If he tells you he is not ready for love, then believe him! Cut it off emotionally, so you can hold on to your dignity and self-worth.

A relationships that has the potential of longevity is the one that starts off on a ‘slow simmer’ and then heats up gradually over time. Get to know his likes and dislikes, observe how he treats you and allow it to grow organically. Slow and steady really does win the race when it comes to lasting, healthy love.