What To Do When He Is Not Calling You

When someone you like a lot doesn’t call or even ghosts you, it can really sting. The excitement of a new romance can quickly turn into self-doubt and frustration.

This is when patience, trust in the bigger picture, and reclaiming your own power become really important.

Patience isn’t just about waiting; it’s about trusting that everything happens in its own time. When someone doesn’t call, it’s easy to panic and think they’re not interested or that you’ve messed up. But patience helps us trust life’s timing. What’s meant for you won’t slip away.

It’s not about sitting around hoping. It’s about realizing that the universe has a way of making things work, even when it doesn’t feel like it.

Trusting that everything happens for a reason helps you let go of the need to control the outcome of your romantic life. You find peace in knowing that what’s meant for you will come to you at the right time.

Trust that everything happens for your highest good. The universe has your back. If someone doesn’t call, maybe they’re right for you. Maybe the timing isn’t right, or there’s someone better just around the corner.

Trusting the universal flow for your highest good helps you let go of the need to control everything and focus on what you can control in life. Controlling how other people behave is not one of them.

If a guy truly likes you, but for personal reasons he needs to take things slow, he will let you know that immediately. He won’t keep you guessing, because he’ll want to make sure you don’t get frustrated and go away ~ Greg Behrendt

In love and relationship readings, I find that there are certain common reasons that often come up for why he doesn’t call:

He’s just not that into you: This is one of the most common and difficult truths to tell someone in love. If a guy really, really likes you, then you will be his priority, not just an option.

He has lost interest: It’s possible that he’s just not as excited about the relationship as he was in the beginning. If that’s the case, he may avoid contact to let things fizzle out.

He’s not sure how he feels: Sometimes people need time to sort out their feelings. He may be trying to figure out what he wants out of the relationship before making a move.

He’s testing the waters: He may wait to see if you call first. This could be a way of gauging your interest in him.

He’s playing it cool: He may be trying not to seem too eager. Some people believe in the so-called “wait three days” rule or think that being aloof makes them more attractive.

He’s seeing someone else: He may be dating around and hasn’t decided who he wants to commit to. If he’s exploring other options, you may not be his primary focus.

He’s afraid of rejection: He may think you’re not interested or worry about rejection. Fear of rejection can make even the most confident people reluctant to call.

He’s very busy: Life can get hectic with work, school, or personal commitments. He may simply be caught up in other responsibilities and hasn’t had a chance to reach out. If this is the reason, know that ofte this behavior is unlikely to change. It also often means that he does not have the space and time in his life for a committed relationship.

He’s having personal problems: He may be dealing with personal issues such as family problems, mental health concerns, or financial stress that are taking up his attention and energy.

He doesn’t know what to say: Sometimes guys get nervous about talking and don’t know how to keep things going, especially early in a relationship. He may avoid calling because he feels uncomfortable.

He’s not a phone person: Some people simply prefer to text or meet in person rather than talk on the phone. If he still connects with you in other ways, he may just not be into calling.

One of the most empowering things to realize about dating is that you have the power in your life. It’s easy to think that the person you like has all the control – whether they call or not, whether they choose you or not. But that’s not true.

When you shift your mindset to understand that you choose who gets your energy and attention, you take back your power. You’re not just waiting for someone else; you’re an active participant in your life and your destiny.

Sometimes beautiful things come into our lives out of nowhere. We can’t always understand them, but we have to trust in them. I know you want to question everything, but sometimes it pays to just have a little faith ~ Nutan Bajracharya

I remember when I was young and in love with guys who only called when it was convenient for them. I was always checking my phone, waiting for texts, rearranging my plans just in case they called. It felt like they had all the power and I was just hoping to be chosen. This mindset left me feeling insecure and unsure of myself.

It took a lot of inner work to change that. I had to remind myself that I deserved someone who valued me and my time, someone who was consistent and respectful. I began to focus on my own personal and spiritual growth, developing my interests, building my confidence.

Eventually, I stopped waiting for guys to call and started living on my own terms. This change not only improved my self-esteem, but also attracted people who were genuinely interested in me and who showed up consistently.

My spirituality was one of the most powerful tools for me to reclaim my personal power and free myself from the fear and insecurity of waiting for someone to call. Spirituality taught me that we are inherently valuable and worthy of love and respect. By focusing on your self-worth, you shift the focus away from needing validation from someone else. You’ll realize that your worth is not determined by whether or not someone calls you.

Spirituality has also taught me the importance of letting go of attachment. By letting go of attachment to a particular person or outcome, you free yourself from the emotional roller coaster of hoping and waiting. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up; it means finding peace no matter what happens.

Spirituality cultivates the power that comes from within. When you connect with your inner power, you realize that you don’t need anyone else to validate your existence or your happiness. This inner power gives you self-confidence and independence.

Above all, spirituality helps you find a purpose beyond relationships. When you connect with your larger purpose, whether it’s helping others, creative pursuits, or personal goals, you become less fixated on waiting for someone else’s attention and more focused on fulfilling your own life’s purpose.

In the end, the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. By practicing patience, trusting the bigger picture, and reclaiming your power, you can navigate the ups and downs of dating with confidence, knowing that what’s meant for you won’t pass you by.