Walking Two Moons In Their Moccasins

To judge, or not to judge, that is the question. Now, even the least religious of Christians will tell you that it is not a good idea to stand in judgment of others. In fact, Matthew 7:1-5 clearly states: “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” However, there is a little-known addition to this spiritual wisdom to be found in John 7:24:  ” Stop judging by mere appearances, but instead judge correctly.”

Wait a minute? Did Jesus not instruct us never to judge? Yes, he implored us not to judge, but he also asked us to filter our experiences through the wisdom of spirit, or the eyes of divine love, before making any judgment. Indeed, some sound judgment is necessary in life. If we never judge anything at all, we may potentially become doormats to others. That’s certainly not what any wise spiritual teacher would recommend.  But we need to be sensible, humble and kind in the process. We must ask for divine wisdom and guidance when considering what we say to others, as well as ourselves.

Judgment is related to karma and the ‘golden rule,’ in that we receive back what we dish out. This is not good if we hold onto our rigidity, unable to see others’ points of view. But if we open our minds and see it from another’s point of view, then we will more fairly and compassionately balance our judgments. We must remember the Native American wisdom, “Don’t judge a man until you have walked two moons in his moccasins.”

Of course, we are only human. Sometimes, it is difficult to bite one’s tongue and hold your peace. This is where a timeout for processing is a wise necessity. Another reason for a daily spiritual practice. We should set aside some quality time for reflection, contemplation, and being divinely focused. This makes it easier to calmly consider the points of view of others.

Judging is preventing us from understanding a new truth. Free yourself from the rules of old judgments and create the space for new understanding ~ Steve Maraboli

Spirit naturally guides us to do what is right for the greater good. The path of others may be very different to our own, but that does not make it less valid or meaningful. Just as one wouldn’t be able to see clearly when wearing another person’s eyeglasses, we shouldn’t assume that someone will benefit from taking our same path in life.

When let go of the need to force our personal ‘eye prescription’ on others, and instead be tolerant and respectful, and gracefully contemplate the differences in opinion, life truly becomes a bright spectacle, instead of a blurred vision.

Let us not judge another person until we’ve walked a mile in their shoes, because over time boots, shoes, heels, sandals, and sneakers mold to the shape of its owner’s unique footprint. Let go of the need to judge others.  Reflect and edit out your inner judgments to present your best self, learning instead from others’ experiences.