The Karmic Lessons Of Soulmate Relationships

What really happens when we meet someone whom we instantly feel a deep connection with? There is an intense ‘spark,’ or the other person somehow feels very familiar as if we have always known them. We just feel very drawn to them, or it feels like it is ‘meant to be.’ But is it truly fate or destiny, or is it just free will?

Well, it is both. Such a person usually comes into our life bearing the gift of a karmic lesson! This is related to fate, and soul contracts. Certain people are ‘fated’ to come into our lives, but whether we choose to let them walk beside us, and in what capacity, is almost always ruled by free will and influenced by which lessons we are currently working on integrating. With these people we typically share what is known as a soul contract or soul agreement, and often they are part of our soul family or soul group.

So, it is indeed ‘meant to be’ with these people…but, with a big but. We must be very careful what we wish for and remember that we also have free will, as do they. Just because something is ‘fated’ or ‘meant to be,’ doesn’t mean it’s something either of you want.

While the idea of us having a predetermined fate or predestined life path can seem like a comforting, convenient and safe concept, ‘meant to be’ does not always equate to ‘easy,’ ‘fun,’ or ‘pleasant.’ It is about the experiences we signed up for in coming here, and some of us have chosen some very challenging karmic lessons for this lifetime. Beware, karmic lessons are often difficult and really challenging!

What we learn from these people can transform our lives and boost our soul growth in profound ways, but just because something is destined or ‘meant to be,’ doesn’t mean it will necessarily be a pleasant or easy experience.

Soulmates aren’t the ones who make you happiest, no. They’re instead the ones who make you feel the most ~ Victoria Erickson

So, while people with whom we share soul contracts may bring in lessons, those lessons are less connected to the person, and more connect to ourselves. Very often we may leave one relationship and then go on to date someone with whom we have similar, even identical struggles. This demonstrates that it is a lesson we must overcome, rather than simply choosing a better partner.

Once we integrate the lesson, we begin to attract potential partners with a different kind of energy, because our own vibration changed. Once you start paying attention you will see this pattern in your own life and relationships. It is universal.

Another aspect of fate and free will that I get many questions about is the phenomenon of ‘soulmates.’ Most of us actually have more than one soulmate in a lifetime. Sometimes people don’t like the idea of having more than one soulmate, because they feel it diminishes the importance or value of their special relationships.

However, I would offer that having one powerful significant relationship in our life does not invalidate our other relationships. The love we share with different people is a different expression with each, but no less powerful. Have you been in love more than once in your life? Each connection is different, but it doesn’t make any of them less intense or meaningful.

For some of us, there may indeed be that one special person who is ‘meant’ to walk beside us for our entire lives, but even in such cases our free will, as well a theirs, still plays a role. The other person also has to choose to walk beside us. You have a choice. They have a choice. And all the other people around you also have their choices. Period.

Sometimes, soulmates may meet, stay together until a task or life lesson is completed, and then move on. This is not a tragedy, only a matter of learning ~ Brian Weiss

The partner you choose has to do with which karmic lessons you choose to work through in this lifetime. Each partner will challenge you, very often in similar ways, until you overcome those particular lessons. It may be comforting to believe that there is only one person we are ‘meant to be’ with, but this is not always the case, because relationships are too valuable a karmic space for to us to learn and grow in, for it to be limited to just one connection.

If there were no jeopardy, no risk, and we had security in the knowledge that no matter what, that one relationship was going to work out… would we be as engaged in ensuring we are doing our part? Probably not.

We also have to accept that we can’t control other people either – they have free will too. They have their karmic lessons, their soul contracts, and their chosen path. We must learn to accept this and recognize that it always serves our highest good, even if it is uncomfortable at times.