Romance And The Law Of Attraction

You are most likely familiar with the Law of Attraction and the notion that positive or negative thought will attract likewise energies or results. In other words, you ‘get out what you put out.’ But did you know that this principle applies just as much to our love lives as our work, money, and other aspects of our lives?

When looking for a romantic partner, people tend to focus on the superficial: appearance, style of dress, social status, income level, and so on. We may say that we want a mate who is active, happy, and successful. But looking in the mirror, how much do those criteria describe us? If we are lazy, unkind, or cynical, the Law of Attraction mandates that inevitably, the same type of person will be drawn to us.

What kind of love do you want to attract? List the qualities you really want in the relationship. Develop those qualities in yourself and you will attract a person who has them ~ Louise Hay

It reminds me of the saying, “Our faults annoy us most when we see them in others.” Instead of focusing on surface attraction, paying attention to the deeper levels of attraction, and bettering ourselves, will, in turn, attract a more appropriate partner.

First and foremost, an attitude of gratitude is key to attracting healthy romance. The Universe is eager to show its bounty to those who show gratitude for all they already have. Showing love and affection for those around you, whether they are friends or strangers, demonstrates that you can give and receive love. Be open and trusting, because if you close yourself off to possibility, you may be cutting off a potential love interest. Many of the deepest relationships have begun in the most unlikely circumstances between people who might never have spoken in the first place.

Just as we must be open to giving, receiving is also a part of the equation. Hard as it is to believe, many people, especially if they have had relationship problems in the past, have trouble receiving love. They may believe that anyone romantically interested in them must have ulterior motives, or is not sincere. It’s a difficult balance between keeping one’s guard up and leaving oneself open to new relationships, but it can be accomplished. The Universe will never send you anything or anyone it does not believe you can handle.

Focus on the best you can in others; and when characteristics you want are missing, practice seeing them anyway – for when you practice the thoughts of the things that you desire, they must show up in your experience ~ Abraham-Hicks

lifeAnd, of course, the most important aspect of attracting the ideal partner is to first love yourself. This does not mean to become a self-important narcissist, but rather to maintain a healthy level of self-esteem and care for our own needs and wants. Many surveys have been done to suggest that the most attractive trait in a potential partner is self-confidence – and this is rare in an age where we are made to feel guilty and self-conscious about every part of our looks, our personality, and our lifestyle. Another, often-overlooked piece of self-confidence is learning to appreciate our own company. It’s okay to be single!

The Universe has the best of intentions for each one of us. If we put our intentions for a romantic partner out there and remember how the Law of Attraction works, it is possible to find that person. Keep in mind that there’s no perfect person out there, but there is the perfect person for you.