Navigating A New Relationship

I believe today’s society has a backward approach on love and it is causing relationships to form quickly and then go nowhere.

It’s exciting when you first meet someone new who has the potential. Feelings become intensified and the possibilities become endless on where it could all go. The problem enters when both parties initially fail to get to know each other or ask the hard hitting questions in the beginning of the relationship.

Are they looking for a short term or long term commitment? Do they still have an attachment to someone else? Do they value and want a family? How well do they handle conflict? Am I able to be myself with this person? Will we be able to compromise on the bigger issues? Will they be a positive influence in my life?

You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover’s arms can only come later when you’re sure they won’t laugh if you trip ~ Jonathan Carroll

If your unable to answer these important questions within a couple months of dating someone, then its time to observe keenly, or ask directly. There is nothing worse than giving your heart to someone, only to realize that they aren’t as invested as you are.

It’s okay to slow down when you feel a strong connection, because if that person truly cares, they will stick around and show you that you are worth the wait.

And if you find yourself stuck in a cycle of continuously attracting a certain type of person, that means you have some work to do on yourself and should stay single until you raise your standards and learn to love yourself first.

Relationships aren’t easy and it can be a long process finding ‘the one.’ But if you can master the art of knowing lust or infatuation versus love, and deception versus truth, then you will attract that person who will bring you joy and comfort for a lifetime.