We Are Not All Raised The Same Way

When dealing with those who don’t show kindness, or people who are not civil towards others, it’s important to remember that everyone is not raised the same way.

I speak to several clients every day. Being an empathic, intuitive person, I can tell when someone has not been told that they are loved. Some folks never enjoyed special family time growing up, and some never even connected with at least one parent. It is really sad.

This is when I give self-care advice, which my clients love. The great feedback I get from my clients about this is that self-care empowers them to become less critical and judgmental of themselves and others. They just feel more free to be themselves, and allow others to be who they are. They learn to accept those who see things differently from themselves.

There are far too many silent sufferers. Not because they don’t yearn to reach out, but because they’ve tried and found no one who cares ~ Richelle E. Goodrich

Not everyone was raised the same way. We all come from imperfect families. No one was raised in a 100% perfect home, but looking back I can say I was so very blessed compared to many. I feel privileged that I came from a family where there was lots of love. I find that people that weren’t told they are loved while growing up, often make fun of those who say it to their loved ones. It kind of makes them feel better, in a demented way.

I have one client who told me that she always tells her children that she loves them, because she wants them to remember long after she is gone that their mother loved them immensely. Her own family growing up was very dysfunctional with alcohol abuse, yelling, fowl language and emotional trauma.

It is important to remember that when you communicate with others and they are quick to judge and assume the worst, it may be because they are trying to find something that only can be found through self-care, self-love and allowing themselves to give to themselves something that was never given to them as a child. So pray for them. Say hello. Send a care package. Let them know your thinking of them.

It is important to remember not everyone was raised the same way as you. If you’re one of the lucky ones who was raised with loving kindness, and given the seeds of some kind of faith, pat it forward. I you enjoyed family vacations and had quality family time with sober parents, you were indeed blessed and we should give thanks and remember to be grateful for such  blessings. Always remember that when others are unkind, they are usually the ones who need the most love, because they may not have received it growing up.