Choose Wisely To Save Your Relationship

Toxic relationships can have a detrimental effect on our health. Some of us stay in toxic relationships for all kinds of reasons. We try and rationalize in our minds the reasons why we should not end it.

Some people think having a family with someone, or owning property together, is reason enough to stay in an unhealthy relationship. Some feel they have invested so much time and energy into the relationship, that it would be a waste to walk out. Others stay for religious reasons.

So, too many people keep living in relationships that are unhealthy and detrimental to their well-being. But what I have learned over the years, as professional psychic and spiritual advisor, is simply this: if the love is no longer there, it wasn’t meant to last; that period of soul growth is complete and it is time to move on.

We have to recognize that there cannot be relationships unless there is commitment, unless there is loyalty, unless there is love, patience, persistence ~ Cornel West

Sometimes love can come for just a moment, sometimes for a season, and for a number of reasons, but it is a rare gem, a real rarity, to find love that lasts.

We live in a world these days that makes it extremely challenging to stay together and make a relationship last. Social media, for example, makes it so easy to keep in touch with people from your past. Those people sometimes return into our lives, sometimes ruining existing relationships that weren’t going to last anyway. If a relationship is meant to be forever, for the long haul, it wouldn’t be moved by a social media pop-up from the past.

We need to choose wisely. If you are on social media, decide if you want to make your profile public, or limit it to just close friends and family. If anyone is able to contact you, then be prepared for your past to find you in some way, shape, or form. Ask yourself, will this cause a problem for me and my partner? Consider your thoughts, words, and actions every time you go online or go out with friends. Ask yourself, will this offend my partner, will this cause tension, anxiety, jealousy? If so don’t do whatever it may be. We all have the choice to be single, or in a relationship. It is so important to realize there are certain things we should no longer do when we are totally committed.

If you are with someone who is talking to an ex, and your intuition tells you something isn’t right, you are more than likely correct to feel the way you do. It’s normal. It’s not healthy to get in touch with an ex, while you are in a new, committed relationship. Some may say it is old-fashioned to think this way, but it’s not. It is just common sense. Sometimes I think common sense is so rare these days, it should definitely be considered a new superpower.

It comes down to simple cause and effect. If you love the one you’re with, focus and share your time with that person. Help them feel secure and loved, and show them you care, by being there, and not allowing your past to ruin your future.

Love grows and wanes, but honor, duty, and commitment, those things are constant and stable. They define who you are ~ Richelle E. Goodrich

If you have the desire to be with someone from your past, or someone else, make sure you inform the person you are currently with. That way they can move on and find someone who truly wants to be with them.

When you start to date someone and become a couple or get married, remember you’re committing to that person for the long haul. That means you no longer should be doing certain things. You are supposed to change your lifestyle. To be with one person, and to spend your time and energy with someone you can create a life with, special memories with, is a gift. Cherish it. Show the necessary appreciation and respect.