Why People Cheat On Their Mates – Part 1

Many times I will do a reading for someone who wants to know if their mate is cheating on them. Sadly, more times than not lately, I find that my clients suspicions are accurate, in some way, shape or form. But what constitutes “cheating.” There are all types of cheating and to some people one form of cheating may not be considered cheating at all.

One form of cheating is you’re dating someone and you are considered an established couple, but that person is also seeing others behind your back. Why do they cheat? Some feel it’s because they don’t really love their boyfriend or girlfriend, while some say they do it to see if the one they are with is really the one they want to be with. They claim the only way to find out is to date, or be with someone else. The whole  “if it’s meant to be they will come back” concept.

Those who are faithless know the pleasures of love; it is the faithful who know love’s tragedies ~ Oscar Wilde

A more troublesome form of cheating is the extra-marital affair. Why do spouses cheat? Some do it because there is something missing inside of them. It could be a lack of self-esteem, or maybe they feel they are not getting what they need from their spouses. Many times it’s simply due to a lack of communication. Some will eat due to stress, to fill the void, some cheat to fill that void. Everyone does things different, but one thing we all can agree on is that marital cheating is wrong and a deal breaker by most people’s standards.

I have the permission of two of my clients to share their cheating stories with you in my next blog. Maybe it may help someone who has, or is going through the same thing, to be empowered and to make some changes. Maybe it can help someone  to live a life of truth and realness with themselves and or their mates.

One thing I have learned is it is far better to teach children early on the importance of loving themselves and to cherish their bodies, and to really know someone before entering into a committed relationship, especially if they feel intimacy will be involved. It’s important to teach ways to listen to that inner voice, also called intuition or God within, as it will never steer them wrong.

Earthquakes just happen. Tornadoes just happen. Your tongue does not just happen to fall into some other girls mouth! ~ Gemma Halliday

I have found so many people, especially those between the ages of 18 to 30, staying in unhealthy relationships. Often times the relationships are one-sided; one partner is more committed than the other, or one is in love, while the other is not.

Bottom-line, cheating is never okay. It is a sign there is something wrong, either with the person doing the cheating, or two people who are not meant to be together.

If you feel your mate is cheating, or if you have been in a relationship where cheating was involved, or if you have a friend or acquaintance who you know is cheating or being cheated on, be sure and read my next blog. It may help you to either understand why people cheat, or help yourself or those who you love who are in these unhealthy circumstances.