The Life Lesson Of ‘Making Plans’

‘Making plans’ has been a life lesson for me. Whenever I make serious plans, they always tend to fall through. Something usually comes up, or it just doesn’t work out.

It has been at times almost comical. I even started telling people, whenever they invite me to attend an event, or go somewhere with them, or sign up for something important, that I plan on possibly doing this with them, but I am not going to say it is definite….because then it probably won’t work out.

In time I came to realize that the Universe was teaching me, over and over again, to not make any major plans. The lesson for me has been simply to never say yes to anything with absolute certainty. Why? Because nothing is ever guaranteed. Things change, things happen… and not only to us, but also to others. It is often a domino effect that can impact our plans in many ways. Today, tomorrow, nothing is ever guaranteed.

In the process I have also learned to curb my emotions. You may find this odd or strange, but it has been my truth for more than four decades. In my experience, whenever I get super excited about something, it either gets taken away from me, or something happens to changes it for the worse.

You can have a plan, but you have to be flexible. Every day is unpredictable, and you just have to go with the flow ~ Jane Krakowski

Call it what you like, but I believe it has to do with the energy frequency that I put out. When I become extremely happy, the vibration is so intense that it must be balanced in some way. So, whenever I receive something that makes me super happy, you will never see me jump for joy or loudly express my excitement. Because if I do, that very thing, whatever it is, usually goes away again.

I have learned instead to moderate my energy and keep it at a ‘happy medium’ (no pun intended). I have learned to manage my emotions to a point where things stay balanced and in alignment. I have learned how to tentatively ‘make plans.’ This way I am much more sure to make it to whatever it is I want to do, or attend. I have learned the art of going with the ebb and flow, and never to say definitely yes to anything.

See your disappointments as good fortune. One plan’s deflation is another’s inflation ~ Jean Cocteau

A dear friend told me something else in this regard, that also makes sense. For her, saying absolutely yes to things, eventually makes her extremely stressed, because the feeling of being obligated to do something makes it too much pressure in the end. She always wants to know she has options, or some sort of choice in the matter. So, this is possibly another side to it? Maybe we jinx our own plans by subconsciously creating resistance to it whenever begin to feel obligated or pressured?

Whatever the reason may be, taking a more moderate or neutral approach to ‘making plans’ appears to be the best way to go. If I can make it, great. If something comes up to prevent it, that’s okay too. Either way, it’s all good. My grandmother always said, “See what happens and never make any plans.” Go with the ebb and flow, it makes life so much less stressful.