Releasing Toxic People In Your Life

Every person has at some point in their life had a person in their life whom they believed had their best interests at heart. Yet, that person blind-sided them by doing or saying something to knock them off kilter. This happens to the best of us.

Often we continue to believe that this person will change, that they are our true friend. But they might just be using us, and we allow it. They might take from us, and we allow it. They might advance themselves because of something we did, and then when the roles or positions are reversed, they will let greed and ego take over and knock us to our knees.

This kind of thing happens in life and in relationships all the time. I do not feel any of us is totally exempt from this – whether we were the one being used, or the one using someone else.

Recently, I was able to feel the total freedom of such an experience in my life. I assisted someone in my profession. I helped her to get connected with some websites and other resources, to help her make an even better living. She was quite well-off prior to this, but it was never enough.

Soon she went gung-ho, and found site after site that she made herself available on, and simply prospered. However, she would never share any of these opportunities in return. Whenever I happened to show up on the same sites, she would contact me and say, ‘Don’t tell anyone else about this, too much competition already.’

Letting go of toxic people in your life is a big step in loving yourself ~ Hussein Nishah

At that time I should have seen the truth of this person, however I continued to be a friend. She eventually launched her own website and I noticed how she had invited many people other in the field, many of whom I know and work with, to be join her new venture. However, I never received as much as an invite, neither a reply to my application. She clearly did not want competition, despite the fact that she could be making extra money from my contribution. This made zero business sense to me?

However, it came to me very clearly one evening. I was hurt and I started to reconsider who she really was. For example, she had sold everything and left her husband, while he was out of the country (including the house) and kept all the money. She finalized and sold all her mother’s belongings and did not even inform her sister that their mother had passed. The only time she contacted me, was always just to tell me about the new car she purchased, or the new condo, the new house, the new furniture, and so on.

It was always about money. Not about helping others, but the money. And it did not matter who she had to walk over to get it, she just simply did. But I had blinders on in regards to this person. I felt she was my friend. I actually admired and looked up to her. However, when the truth was shown to me by my angels, in a very clear way, all I heard was, “Time to walk away.”

Her karmic lesson will come and what I thought was such an amazing life was simply creating self-pain. This message was so clearly presented to me. Toxic people use you, they are very ego driven and usually motivated by greed. If they have you under their spell, and you are waiting on them hand and foot, they want you to do more.

For example, if you are cooking for them as a family member, they start complaining. If you then try to change what you are cooking, you are enabling them, instead of simply taking a stand and saying, ‘There is the stove, make it yourself.”

If a spouse or partner is always high on themselves, while constantly criticizing the way you dress, your appearance, your intelligence, walk away from them and let them go. Love does not conquer all. That is not love. It is disrespect and will become abusive after time in a larger way. It is the little things that create the bigger things.

Sometimes it’s better to end something  and try to start something new than imprison yourself in hoping for the impossible ~ Karen Salmansohn

I am as guilty as anyone else. I have learned this valuable life lesson. Does this mean I will not help others? No, it does not. I am who I am. I help those that ask and I try to uplift all that cross my path. However, I no longer let someone else drag my energy down. I no longer hold onto the toxic people that come into my life. She was a huge life lesson. She showed me the dark side of money and the material world.

We should always choose love over the material.  The love of a child, the love of a grandchild, a spouse, a parent – and yes, even our closest can fit into this toxic place – it is important to weed out those that are not bringing out your Highest good in life. I choose to live, love and be happy with who I am and not what I have. I choose to be in awe of nature and the water that calls me.

What is your toxic relationship life lesson? I would love to hear about it or assist you on moving forward and realizing the freedom that comes from letting go.