Monitoring The Blame Game

We are in a time where the human activity of assigning blame is more public and becoming a common habit for the individual, as well as the collective. Have you noticed? Hands up if you participate in the Blame Game!

This is no judgment. What, no hand up? Is that because you don’t or is it a half-hearted admittance to participating, depending on the situation?

Whichever category above you chose to place yourself in, remember the propensity for assigning blame is natural. We may blame our boss for the unnecessary challenges at work. And we may blame the government for our household budget not making ends meet, due to too much tax. There are instances where there is a valid and specific rationale for blame. We are allowed to define why something did not go to plan, or as expected.

We live in a culture of blame. People will blame anyone or anything for their misery sooner than take the responsibility to own it and make it better ~ Henry Cloud

Sometimes our upbringing and life experiences also steer us down a path of blame. In this instance we choose to ‘blame’ our circumstances or environment for things that occur in our life.

Now, there are many things in life that have a very subjective component and for me blame is one of them. The energy and intention behind the blame statement plays a role. Are we in the negative vein of blame, or can we redirect the issue to a more positive explanation of the situation?

For example, you are awaiting delivery of a replacement part for a piece of equipment, which you committed to your supervisor would be available by a certain date. The part is then held up in customs, or by a shipping delay that makes it impossible to meet your deadline. You could then state to your supervisor, “Well, it’s not my fault that I am missing the date. It was because of customs”. Or you could state instead, “Sadly, I am unable to repair the equipment on time as originally planned, due to the part being held up in customs. There will be a four day delay.” There is a difference in the energy or tone of the words.

So, what is wrong with engaging in the Blame Game? The Blame Game limits you by programming your consciousness (and subconscious) that there are things that limit us. We cannot change it, but we can rationalize it away as someone else’s fault or problem. By not accepting the association of the blame principle in life you will always look for a solution.

If you are looking to inspire people then blaming is the last thing you want to do. To inspire others, focus your attention on the solution not the blame. No good comes from blame, good comes from finding a way to correct the situation ~ Kate Summers

The blame game often comes up when our expectations are not met, or because hurt feelings. It is often a means to deflect the real issue relating to ourselves, and avoiding conflict. Innately it can create more conflict, since the energy is not heart-based, neither does it come with an intention to finding a compromising solution.

So, it is suggested that you monitor your thoughts and words. You will become more positive and by default better things will come to you. This monitoring offers better relationship, less stress, and harmonious environment.