Gracious Silence Protects You From A Lack Of Grace

God gives us moments in life where we are called to rise up, and be and do certain things we would otherwise not do spontaneously or willingly. Yet, we go and do out of obligation, to avoid negative repercussions, negative feedback from family, or just all around negative domino effects in some way, shape or form.

My fellow intuitive will know what I’m talking about here. It’s that feeling that comes to us to warn us, to tap us on the shoulder to say something like, “Hey, be careful, your going to need to set up a psychic shield. Negative energy is afoot!” It’s that inner knowing.

When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudice, and motivated by pride and vanity ~ Dale Carnegie

Sometimes history does repeat itself. Those of us who have that one relative who really does truly believe the world revolves around them, well, we are called, due to some holiday or maybe other occasion, to share space with these souls. We pray that maybe through leading by example we can impart some wisdom or kindness, and they will be changed – maybe not forever, but at least for a moment, so that everyone can enjoy this wonderful but short gathering and who knows, maybe even create a happy family memory.

Gracious silence is wonderful in that we can choose to be silent when we have to be around those who lack grace.

God does indeed give us many opportunities, either for ourselves or our loved ones, to make that change and to be a better, caring compassionate human being. He gives us repeated chances and he does this mostly through family.

Doing psychic readings for 30 plus years, no one will ever change my mind to face the fact that it is through extended family, especially in-laws, where we will gain the greatest amount of soul growth, because it can often times be the most challenging.

The challenging part in my own immediately family is that we all live very far apart, while we were very close growing up. Once we got older, we all moved out and now live thousands of miles apart. But we are, thanks to technology, closer maybe even then we were when we were living under the same roof.

We grew up doing sports together. My father was into sports and made time for my brothers through sports-related hobbies. My mother would always keep busy with spiritual and crafting hobbies. So, we were always able to get a little exposure to many diverse aspects of life, and grow in any way our souls called for us to grow. Family time was very important as there were always special nights we would all gather in the living room and watch television, and laugh, and just be happy spending time together. So many precious moments I can’t even begin to count.

Not every moment was happy. We lost both my father’s parents. It was those very sad times that made us stop and think about life and how fast it comes and goes. Yet, the passing of someone we love makes us grow stronger.

Feeling compassion toward a dangerous person will not lead you to submit to them or put yourself at risk or condone their actions. What it does simply, is relieve your anxiety – which immediately makes you stronger and more resilient ~ Laurie Perez

Some say it is the roots, the very foundation of a family that keeps it strong, through hard times, through emotionally trying times. I believe that. Having been there and done that, I can also guide those whom I read for. I have an ability to see who is hurting in a family and offer up advice and insight for my clients – who they can go to and who they can lean on, as well as who they can be there for if someone needs them. I can feel their loved one’s energy calling out to them and quickly share who needs them.

We are sometimes in families, or are related through marriage to families who do not possess these types of feelings for one another. They try to believe they have this, but for those of us who are deeply intuitive, we feel the energy and know different. We know that although they would like to be close and have gracious, courteous, kind and pleasant energy for one another, smiling faces when they see one another, and showing divine grace when they don’t get along with a certain family member, they simply don’t have these attributes.

What can we do when we have to be around such people in our lives? It doesn’t even particularly need to be family, it could be any person whom you work with, or even a friend or neighbor. When a fellow human being lacks gracious silence when the negative energy is there, when the ego is there, when they just have to be a problem for whatever reason, what we can do to protect ourselves from there negative energy is to be graciously silent.

Be kind, be courteous, and pleasant, and smile, and remember this is only for a short time. We also have a choice, we don’t have to put our being in that situation, especially if it’s the same thing energetically every time we see them.

You will notice in some families a certain amount of dis-ease. Maybe it’s just that feeling of going against the grain, because you can feel it each and every time you must be around and share space with these people, that you just don’t feel the love of God, or call it what you will. You just don’t feel that love, that peace.

In these situations you will notice that those who were born into this family have huge amounts of disconnect. There is real dis-ease that they are fighting. A family member or two may even have passed because of the anger that they grew up with for so many years. Maybe it affected their marriage and anger was very apparent there and then the kids suffered.

Entitlement is an expression of conditional love. Nobody is ever entitled to your love. You always have a right to protect your mental, emotional, and physical well-being by removing yourself from toxic people and circumstances ~ Janice Anderson

One thing I have always be very observant of, is the children. Seeing the look they have in their eyes, you just know there is much gossip or negativity they have to hear, without being able to protect themselves. That is what they were born into. They grew up with dis-ease of some kind or another. I love them because they are innocent, they really had no choice. They learn what they grew up living. I pray for them, I pray for their souls and I pray for them to have peace.

Sometimes we have to have a sense of humor when we are around that one family member. The one problematic ‘drip’ in the family that chooses to be a problem, because that is always how it has been for them from an early age. I call that person the ‘adult child’ in the family, who when younger you had to buy a present for even though it wasn’t their birthday, but because they would throw a tantrum if they didn’t get anything… even though it was their sibling’s birthday. Forty years later, we are all sitting around and about to open presents and this person declares how they have just about had it with the family and they are going to throw in the towel and divorce themselves from the family and not going to attend any holiday gatherings. As this person declared this, I could clairaudiently hear everyone’s thoughts. Truth be told, they were so happy to hear that and wished it were true. We were all wishing that this would truly be the case, because then there would be much less drama. I share this as here is a bit of truth and humor to this, but truth nonetheless!

It is only through Gracious silence that we can overcome these types of people and we must pray for them that they, for the sake of their soul, will come to a new awareness. Meanwhile we can only lead by example for their children, and teach them through gracious silence. Gracious silence is what protects us energetically from those who lack grace.