Restore Your Love With A Recommitment Ritual

Performing a recommitment ritual can encourage a relationship to continue to grow and prosper. It can be performed as a couple or alone, in order to heal the relationship, restore love and bring the partnership back into balance.

To perform my version of such a ritual you will need:

3 glass bowls (4 inches or more in diameter)
Purified or filtered spring water
1 red rose (real or silk)
2 red candles
2 clear quartz and 2 rose quartz crystals
Rose or carnation incense
Cinnamon, allspice, thyme
2 sheets of paper and 2 pens
1 bell

Preparation

Holding the two sheets of paper together, cut them in half lengthwise, then again, and then a third time, to form a total of 16 squares. Divide the squares into two piles of eight.

Place the three bowls in a row, filling the middle bowl halfway with water. Set a red candle on either side of the outer two bowls. Place eight squares of paper in one of the empty bowls, then place one quartz crystal and one rose quartz crystal on top of them. Do the same in the other empty bowl. Place the rose and the bell in front of the bowl with water.

Work on your relationships… Relationships need renewal or they die ~ Bo Sanchez

Ideally, this ritual is best performed on a Friday or Saturday evening, or during a Full Moon. Wear white, and play soft instrumental music in the background.

The Ritual

You may perform this ritual with a partner or alone. Sit facing the bowls, and light the rose or carnation incense. Use the incense to light the red candles. Next, charge the water bowl by sprinkling cinnamon into the water, while saying, “This cinnamon revives the spark and vibrancy of our relationship.”

Follow with a pinch of allspice, saying, “This allspice is for growth and versatility in our relationship.”

Finally, sprinkle a pinch of thyme, repeating, “This thyme is for endurance in our relationship.”

When you are finished, place the red rose across the top of the water bowl, in order to draw up the depth of love you carry for each other.

Take the papers from the left bowl, leaving the crystals inside, and have your partner take the papers from the right bowl. On each piece of paper, write one thing you would like to improve about the relationship. This should be a desire or personal goal for you to work on, such as patience, trust, thoughtfulness, plans for a second honeymoon, or whatever comes to mind that you feel would benefit this union. Write down one idea, fold the paper in half twice, and drop it back into the bowl. Repeat the process until all eight papers are filled out.

If you are performing this ritual alone, first fill out your papers. When they are completed, use the second bowl of papers to list the things you are hoping your partner will change to improve the relationship.

We must always change, renew, rejuvenate ourselves; otherwise, we harden ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

When you are finished, pick up the bell and ring it three times. Have your partner do the same.

Next, exchange bowls and draw out one piece of paper, or if you are performing this ritual alone, draw one paper from each bowl. For the next 24 hours, these topics will be your focus, to be discussed or worked on. For the changes you hope to bring to a partner who is not present, meditate on the topics, then turn the matter over to spirit to resolve.

Next, each of you will ring the bell once to mark the end of the ritual, and vow that you will use this bell over the coming week to request a conversation, draw a truce if an argument breaks out, or affirm progress for the topic on which you are working.

Each day at an appointed time, meet for this ritual, ringing the bell once at the start and once at the end of the session. Each of you will draw out a new slip of paper to address and work on together. Do this ritual for eight days, until all papers have been read.