Talking To Your Unborn Child

A decade ago, I congratulated a client on her pregnancy. She was a soon-to-be single mom. Lucy was battling her own demons, and insecurity after fighting the battle with alcohol and drugs, and had fallen head over heels for Justin during a recent stint in rehab. Naturally, she was devastated when the man she loved did not show the slightest interest in ever being a part of their son’s life.

Lucy was a beautiful, and exceptionally talented young woman, but had no idea how special she was. She was a slip of a thing and seemed so vulnerable. She only had a couple of friends, since so many others, as well as family, had given her the cold shoulder because of her substance abuse. Like myself, she’d had many slips by falling off the wagon, but I believe that to this day, she is winning the battle.

Mothers and their children are in a category all their own. There’s no bond so strong in the entire world. No love so instantaneous and forgiving ~ Gail Tsukiyama

Lucy already had one child from a previous marriage. Her ex-husband was full custodian of their eight year old daughter, because of the situation with her addiction, which had impacted their marriage, and her ability to take care of their daughter. Most people were encouraging Lucy to abort the unborn child, but she insisted, “This is different, I communicate with him, and he wants to be born. I am going to do all I can to bring him into this world naturally.”

She seemed to have it all planned out, step by step, throughout her pregnancy. The midwife had, on a couple of occasions visited Lucy’s little cottage to go over the process of her home birth, and to check out where the birth pool was to be set up. It came as a huge surprise when she asked me to be at the home birth of her baby!

It was a cold winter’s night when I left home at 8pm on the evening the baby was expected, and drove over to Lucy’s home. I joined the midwife and doula, together with a friend of Lucy, who had also recently given birth at home. The cottage was warm and inviting and esoteric music played softly in the background. Candles softened the mood, for what would become a difficult night.

There was still so much to do, in preparing for the event, as well as preparing any medical kit necessary. Lucy seemed ready to have her baby, but the midwife obviously knew best and had everything calmly under control. I just wanted it to be over, for Lucy’s sake. She was in a lot of discomfort.

Finally, at 12:15 the following morning the signs were there that delivery was imminent and Lucy, with the assistance of the midwife and doula, entered the water birth pool.

Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body ~ Elizabeth Stone

Little Jason was perfect, and, as he was lifted to the surface of the pool, he placed a tiny little hand on each of Lucy’s cheeks. He faced her, as if he was looking right into her soul. To this day, the thought of that beautiful sight gives me the shivers. They were already bonded.

Sadly, against my wishes, I had been put in charge of the camera and, with so much going on, and not being the greatest photographer, I didn’t capture that moment on film, but if I could paint it, I would. That, I now knew was an unbreakable mother-child bond.

Someone once explained to me how, when she and her husband were struggling to fall pregnant, she had begun envisioning that little soul that would be her child. She said she constantly had telepathic conversations with the soul of her child, emphasizing that it was time for her future daughter to join the family in physical form. I found this really fascinating. She did fall pregnant within a short time of beginning those telepathic conversations. Was it this communicative process that brought the little girl to them – who knows?

What I do know, is that in healing balance sessions I experienced myself, as well as during those I have done for others, many belief systems, even negative blocks are picked up from within and around the environment of the mother in utero. During a body alignment healing session given to me, my mentor picked up how there had been some negative fears instilled during my mother’s pregnancy at approximately four months in the womb. When he gave me this information, it absolutely resonated with me, as if I felt I was witnessing animosity and arguments around me. The animosity, by the way, was later confirmed to me as animosity shown to my mother by my father’s mother, and that my parents used to argue about this.

On a recent Discovery Channel television program it was very interesting to see that tests have confirmed that a baby can begin to hear as early as 13 weeks in utero. No wonder a peaceful and happy pregnancy can have a big impact on a child for the better.