Is There Such A Thing As Destiny?

During a recent visit to my dentist, Daniella, I managed to ask her a couple of questions about her background. For obvious reasons one rarely gets a chance to say much to one’s dentist!

Daniella is a very professional, natural young woman, and I asked her how she ended up studying dentistry in Spain, as I knew she’d spent her early years in England. Her father is Spanish and her mom is English, and this prompted me to ask how her mom and dad met.

I must admit, the first thing that would come to most people’s minds is that Daniella’s mom might have fallen in love with a young, dark and handsome young Spaniard, whilst holidaying in Spain in the Seventies. It wasn’t like that at all.

Life is like a game of cards. The hand you are dealt is determinism; the way you play it is free will ~ Jawaharlal Nehru

Daniella explained how they had met in Baghdad, Iraq. Mom was a ballerina in a production there at the time, and her father was a musician playing at the embassy. Shortly after meeting, they were evacuated because of the political unrest looming.

I am always fascinated to hear how spirit orchestrates such meetings of two souls. I call it destiny. Their romantic meeting seemed rather orchestrated, just like in an old-fashioned movie.

Yes, I felt convinced this had to be destiny. As romantic as it sounded, Daniella continued to add to the story, of how the years ahead unfolded and, as romantic as their initial meeting was, they had many challenges ahead. Her mother came to Spain to be with her husband, only to find herself very much treated as an outsider, often having bricks thrown at her if she stepped outside their little rural home. This must have been particularly hard for a young lass from a warm, loving town in Northern England.

Eventually, it became unbearable for her mom and they moved back to England, where they had their three children. After several years, Daniella’s father longed for his Spanish roots. So, from a point when destiny brought them together, they made lots of choices over the years bringing them many lessons.

Our destiny changes with our thought; we shall become what we wish to become, do what we wish to do, when our habitual thought corresponds with our desire ~ Orison Swett Marden

Is there such a thing as destiny? My feeling is that there is, but if everything was pre-arranged, working hard to achieve a goal or learning could feel like a waste of time, and we might become complacent, waiting for things to simply unfold around us.

As much as certain details of our lives might be mapped out for us, we are the drivers, choosing the routes, often taking a complicated direction. I believe that free will and our destiny are intertwined, and the type of chart one sees in Astrology is a picture of our potential. Events and our choices along the way determine the outcome.

We can all give destiny a helping hand to manifest our greatest potential, by being crystal clear on what we desire, and don’t feel shy to ask the universe for what you want from time to time. In the meantime, be proud of lessons learned from choices made. If right now you wish you’d chosen differently, you’ve learned a valuable lesson. You won’t feel the need to repeat that life lesson, so mission accomplished!