Understanding The Soulmate Connection

I have been doing love and relationship psychic readings for over 15 years, and I am often surprised at the misunderstanding many of my clients have of soulmate relationships. Our cultural myths and urban legends, whether they are found in books, television, or movies, often provide only a fragmented, romanticized version of the true soulmate journey. It is important not to project these notions of reality onto our partners, because these ‘ideals’ can often create unnecessary challenges in our romantic lives.

Mostly people agree that soulmate relationships are meant to be substantially fulfilling. However, fulfillment is only one of many characteristics of a soulmate connection.  Through these relationships, we also experience personal growth, overcome challenges, and learn to love ourselves and those around us on a new level.

Spiritual partnership implies a goal of encouraging and supporting the unfolding of each other’s soul’s reasons for being here in the first place ~ Katherine Woodward Thomas

Soulmates are those individuals that we have incarnated with on this planet, to help us to learn and evolve. At this point in history humanity is undertaking a powerful evolutionary leap to transcend fear and embrace love. This is true on a global scale, but it is also profoundly true in the microcosms of our romantic and familiar relationships.

Evolution is not always an easy task. It involves facing and overcoming unique challenges that will create a fundamental change on the soul level of the individual. For example, an animal species evolves as a result of challenges it faces in its environment. It is important to remember that for an animal species these events can often come up as extinction level obstacles, and as it transcends these challenges there is a fundamental change in the species’ DNA. This is a picture of how we too evolve at the level of consciousness.

Regardless of our present relational status, it is key to remember that there is purpose to our relational status.  Whatever challenges we are facing, these challenges are opportunities to look within and find the most loving solution for ourselves and those around us. This is the work we are all doing and the ultimate purpose of all relationships. As we transcend fearful states into more loving states, we can clearly see the solutions that meet our relational needs.

Are you looking for your soulmate? One of the key attributes of searching for this type of relationship is that the process of life will bring you what you need, when you need it. There are also many lessons that can be gathered by being single. One of which is simply trusting the process of life. Sometimes we block ourselves from relational fulfillment by not trusting that the universe will bring it to us.

One of my early mentors once said to me, “James, the only thing that brings about instant manifestation is infinite patience.” Again, there may be multiple reasons behind why an individual has not manifested their soulmate relationship, but this is certainly one to look at, and see if you have been blocking relationships out of fear that they will never come.

A soulmate is the one person whose love is powerful enough to motivate you to meet your soul, to do the emotional work of self-discovery, of awakening ~ Kenny Loggins

Are you looking for more serenity within your relationship?  Sometimes our lessons within a romantic relationship are about creating more boundaries and expressing what we need in relationships. One of the primary things to remember in relationships is that you matter. Playing the role of the victim is not the appropriate way to love yourself, nor is it loving towards your partner. Stand up for yourself, and understand that sometimes the most loving thing we can do for ourselves and others is finding the appropriate way out.

I am not an advocate of throwing the baby out with the bathwater, and I believe that our culture often gives up too early and easily when it comes to relationships. That being said, there are certainly appropriate times to take significant action by creating boundaries that serve our best interest.

In all of this, the best thing we can do is to free ourselves from the fantasy of the “ideal, and learn to find serenity in the real. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship.  Actually, as humans, we would become very bored if our lives were the ideal, rather than the real. Life is about experiences. It is a journey of the soul. With any good story, there is the victor, and you have the potential to be the victor of your own story. Just remember that to have victory, it means that there are things that must be overcome.